Posted in Marital

Facts About Sex Everyone Must Know Especially SIngles

It’s not abnormal to have sexual urges or feelings. God gave us organs and hormones that would prepare us to have it when it’s stimulated.

You can have safe sex. The media has promoted the use of contraceptives or staying faithful with a partner outside marriage to achieve that, but the truth is that abstinence and staying contented with marital sex is the only safe sex you can ever have.

Meanwhile, you can’t be in an immoral relationship and your chances of falling victim to premarital sex won’t be high.

The likes of kissing, caressing, fondling, and other sexually stimulating activities are nothing but sexual immorality. Don’t play with the fire you can’t extinguish.

Whether you believe it or not, sex does not love. A man can love you without going down there, and a woman can be your friend without luring you for sex. It all depends on the kind of person you’re in a relationship with and your values.

Sex is good. Medical science and researchers have proved its immense benefits for your health and body; but little do they mention when its effect on your mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual health. Sex is only good in marriage, anywhere outside that is abominable and sinful.

Sex is pleasurable and sweet. The moaning, pleasure, orgasm, feelings, and all the effect it leaves you with makes it good for the body, much to be desired and it makes you “feel” like a man or woman.

But…

Sex outside marriage is a sin that God Himself supervises its punishment. You may argue that but it doesn’t change anything; it’s outright evil.

It’s a sin against God who created it. Do you think He’d be happy with you for abusing the purpose of why He created it? He doesn’t understand your ideology that “body no be firewood” as an excuse to indulge in it.

More so, having illicit sex is a sin against your body. Everyone who has sex outside marriage brings shame and dishonor to their bodies. What contraceptive can’t undo or prevent, sex outside marriage would expose you to it.

Having sex outside marriage is a vice that affects society due to the widespread of single parenting, an increase in fornicators and adulterers where bad precedence is laid for the next generation.

Why is the issue of DNA testing and cheating brouhaha becoming trendy news in the media? Because men and women choose to have sex outside marriage or before it.

See…

The devil has hijacked God’s purpose for sex, deceiving many to have it outside marriage so he can use it as a means to recruit their souls into his kingdom of darkness.

How do I mean?

Every illicit sexual act you have is a legal ground for the devil to invade your soul with the demons of sexual perversion and inordinate desire for it.

Now, many are becoming exposed to illicit sex and are defending themselves with reasons that sound like truths but are lies from the pit of hell.

Almost everybody wants to get the feeling of sexual pleasure when they’re not married even down to upcoming children 😜 Nawa o! Some married people aren’t faithful to their spouses anymore because of sex. Kilode?

If the reasons He created sex are despised, then sex becomes abused. Aren’t you an abuser of sex?

Sex is not a Valentine’s Day gift for singles or a means to appreciate what someone has done for you.

The prevalent longing for sexual intimacy and its involvement in almost all opposite-sex relationships has made many grown wild in the pursuit of their lustful passion which contradicts God’s instructions.

Now that many do not want to acknowledge God in their knowledge concerning sex, He gave them over to a reprobate mind to do those things that are not sensible.

In case you don’t know, God created sex and the “how” and “when” it should be done. Lawmakers do not create it even if they legalize the perverted forms, neither do scientists or psychologists have a final say over it.

You can only be satisfied sexually in marriage by submitting to God’s word on sexual matters, embrace chastity, then stay away from sexual pleasure outside marriage.

And singles can embrace the discipline of chastity depending on the association they keep, their mindset, or the choice they make; but remember that every choice has its consequence.

But to be honest, it’s difficult to embrace chastity in this present clime, but with the fear of God, understanding, discipline, and determination, you can do it.

Where are singles who have vowed to have their first-time sex only on their wedding night? Unfortunately, many are fast-breaking their purity vows because of the temptation and loneliness that comes with being single.

Satisfaction from sexual pleasure will never come with that sister or brother, a whore, a side chick, a sugar mummy, a sugar boy, your boyfriend or girlfriend. It will only come with your husband or wife in marriage.

Hear this, having too many sexual partners and undue exposure to it steals sexual contentment in marriage, instead of bringing it. It would be difficult for you to stay faithful in marriage when you have fragmented your soul with many sexual partners before marriage.

Resolve to be faithful today, for yourself and your spouse and you’ll save your home and society from the evils of sexual discontent.

May God help you to be sexually content as married couples and to embrace chastity as singles so you won’t be deceived by the lies of the enemy that destroys.

© Oluwamayowa Adeniyi 2021

Posted in Marital

10 ways to avoid sex before marriage

Sometime ago, I was anchoring a question and answer program on WhatsApp and someone asked me how she can avoid having sex before marriage. For the benefit of others, I decided to write an article on it.

Let me start by stating that sex itself is NOT a sin. Sex was created by God. As a matter of fact, God created us with sexual organs because He wants us to have sex. Sex is a gift from God to us BUT it’s to be enjoyed by ONLY legally married COUPLE. The only time God expects us to have sex is when we are married not before.

Premarital and extramarital sex are sins. They may be fun but not honorable. If you notice those two words, one carries the prefix “pre” and the other “extra” and what’s that telling us sex before(pre) or outside of marriage(extra) is not right. Sex is meant to be only in marriage (marital).

Avoiding sex before marriage, not just because it’s the right thing to do, will save you from lots of avoidable ugly experiences, guilty conscience, STDs, unwanted pregnancy, stagnation, death, God’s judgment, abortion, etc. It pays to avoid sex before marriage. You will make God happy and at the same time save yourself from troubles. So, close up and zip up.

Hebrews 13:4 says, “Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled; but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.” Avoiding sex before marriage is an honorable something to do. Maybe you are in a relationship right now and you sincerely desire to maintain sexual purity, to avoid sex before marriage, this article is meant for you. I present to you 10 ways you can avoid sex before marriage.

  1. Decide

In Daniel 1:8 the Bible says that Daniel purposed or decided in his heart that he won’t defile himself. Likewise, you have to make a decision. Life is all about decisions. Nothing gets done without a definite decision.

Daniel was able to overcome because he decided. So, you and your partner have to decide too that you guys are not going to have sex, you’ve to make up your mind that you will not have sex till marriage. That’s the foundation you are going to lay every other thing on.

  1. Guide Your Mind

Proverbs 4:23 says, “Guide your heart with all diligence because out of it flows the issues of life.” Your mind is the gateway to your life. What goes on in your mind determines what goes on in your life.

So, guide your heart from pollution, watch the things you fill your mind with, watch the music you listen to, the videos you watch, the things you read etc. These things have the power to influence your life.

  1. Mind Your Conversations

In Colossian 3:8 the Bible says that we should put off every filthy communication out of our mouths. Avoid using obscene words, erotic words or suggestive words. Avoid sex chatting. Mind your use of words. In short, avoid words that can turn you on.

  1. Renew Your Mind

Romans 12:2 says that we should renew our minds because that’s only when we will be able to judge rightly. When you are always horny or having an erection, you have been filling your mind with sexual stuff, your mind needs renewing.

Watch, listen and read positive things, mostly importantly the Word of God. Listen to nice songs, sermons. That’s how to renew your mind. Remember, it’s garbage in garbage out. It’s what you fill your mind with that it will process and give you back in return. You can’t fill your mind with negativity and expecting to live positively.

  1. Avoid Too Much Closeness

The Bible asked a question in Proverbs that can a man take fire in his bosom will not be burnt? If you don’t want fire to burn you, don’t go close.

Avoid too much closeness. It can spark into flames. Men aren’t the only one that lust, women too. Avoid too much unnecessary closeness in any form or shape physically or online.

  1. Avoid Staying In Secluded Place Alone

Sin thrives in secret very much. To avoid having sex, try as much as possible to avoid staying alone in a secluded place together. If visiting him or her will make you both to fall into it, stop visiting, let your meetings be in an open place.

  1. Don’t Cohabit

Cohabiting means living together when you guys aren’t married. Cohabiting for whatever reason is not right. That’s actually a sin. We should avoid every appearance of evil.

You are only expected to live together after you are married not before you are married unless of course if sexual purity is not your thing. Body is not iron it must react especially when emotion is involved. It’s a harmattan fire! You can’t keep a goat and yam in the same house and expects nothing to happen.

  1. Stop Collecting Or Requesting For Money

I’m talking to our beautiful ladies now. For some guys, giving you money or anything equals giving them right to ask for sex. So, don’t ask and rarely collect when they give you.

When you keep asking or collecting money, when they ask for sex you’ll feel obligated especially when they start blackmailing you emotionally, “After all I’ve done for you,” “After giving you this or that,” you get my point?

  1. As For Grace In time past, sexual temptations, immorality and perversions are not rampant like it is now. You turn here and there sex. In the midst of all these, you need God’s enabling power(grace) to come out victorious.

The urge to sin is stronger than your will. It’s not of him that willeth but of God that showeth mercy. You have decided many times not to have sex but you keep failing into it despite your decisions. It’s good to make decision but much more than that, you need grace. So, ask for God’s grace. You can’t do it on your own.

  1. Avoid Getting Intimate

Don’t eat the food while it’s still on the fire. You’re the same person that will eat it when it’s cooked. So, avoid kissing, romancing, touching, smooching, unnecessary hugging etc., these are launching pad to sex!

Let me conclude by saying that, maintaining sexual purity pays, it will give you peace of mind, it will save you from troubles and more importantly you will make God happy.

Thanks for reading.
© Okolie Samuel

Source:Gnews.com

Posted in General News

Soldier in court for allegedly having sex with minor

A 30-year-old soldier has appeared before an Accra Circuit Court, for allegedly having sex multiple times with a 14-year-old girl at Burma Camp, Accra.   

Cpl Offei Richard Okyere, charged with defilement, has pleaded not guilty.

The Court presided over by Adelaide Abui Kadey, remanded Cpl Okyere into Military custody to reappear on January 27.   

The facts as presented by Detective Sergeant Opoku Aniagyei are that; the complainant is a 53-year-old labourer of the Ghana Military Police residing at Burma Camp, Accra. 

The prosecution said the victim is a 14-year-old Junior High School Student, residing with the father who is the complainant in the case.   

Detective Sergeant Aniagyei said Okyere was also residing at Burma Camp and that the complainant and Okyere worked in the same Regiment and were very good friends.   

The prosecution said between July and September last year, Okyere took advantage of the friendship between him and the complainant and paid visits to the complainant’s house.   

He said whiles the complainant was away, Okyere lured the victim into their room and had sexual intercourse with the victim in a sofa chair.   

The prosecution said on another occasion, Okyere had sex with the victim on the complainant’s bed.   

He said not satisfied with the sexual advances, Okyere took the victim to a nearby bush about 200 meters away from the victim’s house and had sex with her.   

The prosecution said on December 15, last year, the victim’s elder sister questioned whether she was a virgin and the victim denied being one. 

This, the prosecution said made the complainant suspicious and he asked the victim who broke her virginity and she mentioned Okyere as the one who had been having sexual intercourse with her.   

He said on December 16, last year, the complainant reported the matter to one Military Police and they arrested Okyere who was detained in a guardroom.

The prosecution said the Military Police issued a medical form to the complainant to seek treatment for the victim at any government hospital.

The prosecution said a medical report was submitted on the victim after medical examination on January 2, this year.   

He said later, the complainant, the victim and Okyere were brought to the Domestic Violence and Victim’s Support Unit of the Ghana Police Service in Accra by the Military Police.

Source: GNA

Posted in Health

Oral Sex and the Alarming Rise of HPV-Related Throat Cancer in Men

By 2020, the rates of HPV-related oropharyngeal cancer are expected to surpass those of cervical cancer. So why aren’t young men getting vaccinated?

In the summer of 2010, Gary Bolnick started to feel weighed down with a new kind of weariness. A self-described workaholic, he was used to burning the candle at both ends. But when he discovered lumps in his neck, he went to his doctor to get it checked out.

“They were like, ‘Don’t even worry about it, it’s all good,'” he tells Broadly. But when his symptoms started to worsen—the fatigue continued and the lumps grew in size—he went back to the doctor, who took a biopsy. On New Year’s Day, 2011, he received the results: stage-4 tonsil cancer.

The leading cause of tonsil cancer is tobacco use, but Bolnick, who is married with two kids, didn’t smoke. His doctor told him that his cancer was caused by human papilloma virus, or HPV. It was only three years earlier that Maura Gillison, now a professor of internal medicine at Ohio State, published the results of a seven-year-long population study that discovered people with head and neck cancer were 15 times more likely to be infected with HPV in their mouths or throats than those without.

Bolnick had his tonsils removed immediately, and afterward underwent radiation and chemotherapy. “I had a feeding tube and lost a lot of weight. I lost about 80 pounds,” he says. “From there, I was kind of off the grid for a year. I had a lot of adverse reactions to the chemo and the radiation, and I was in pretty bad shape. I wasn’t really able to function in my job and in my life. I was really out of it.”

HPV is the most common sexually transmitted disease in the US—there are more than 100 types, though not all cause health problems. But today, more and more people, predominantly men, are being diagnosed with oral HPV-related cancer. That’s not surprising, since a recent report from the CDC found that between 2011 and 2014, more men (6.8 percent) than women (1.2 percent) had high-risk oral HPV, or a strain of HPV known to cause cancer. Within 20 years, health experts expect the majority of head and neck cancers to be caused by HPV-positive carcinomas instead of smoking and alcohol, and by 2020, the rates of HPV-related oropharyngeal (area encompassing the throat, tonsils, and back of the tongue)cancer will surpass those of cervical cancer.

It’s unclear why more men are affected by this disease, says Krzysztof Misiukiewicz, an oncologist with the Mount Sinai Center for Head and Neck Cancer’s HPV Program for Men, but research has shown that oral sex is the main risk factor. In fact, in 2013, actor Michael Douglas revealed that his stage-4 throat cancer, which he later admitted was actually in his tongue, was the result of cunnilingus.

“Whenever we talk about HPV-positive cancer, we think this person had multiple, multiple, multiple sexual partners,” Misiukiewicz says. “It’s not about being more or less promiscuous. We have couples who have been married for 60 years … and unfortunately, they develop this cancer. The virus stayed quiet and then became visible after 60 years of marriage.”

The good news is that the prognosis is pretty good for cancer patients who are HPV-positive and have never smoked. Even many of those whose cancer returned after remission have a good chance at survival, Misiukiewicz says.

But, as Bolnick confirms, the treatment “is really rough.”

Currently, the only way to safeguard from developing any HPV-positive cancer—whether it’s oral, cervical, penile, or anal—is to be vaccinated. But the vaccine only works for people who have not been exposed to the virus yet, and about 14 million people become infected with some form of it each year. That’s why the age requirements are fairly young: The CDC recommends the HPV vaccine for young women at age 11 or 12, through 26, and for young men through 21.

But historically, few young people get vaccinated. The HPV vaccine was initially approved for girls in 2006 to help prevent cervical cancer. Later, in 2010, those recommendations were extended to teenage boys as well to protect against genital warts.

However, according to Misiukiewicz, many parents are ill-informed about HPV or think getting the vaccine promotes sexual activity or promiscuity, and will bar their children from getting vaccinated. In 2014, for example, only 40 percent of girls aged 13-17 received all three doses of the vaccine. For teen boys, that figure was about half (21.6 percent).

“About 80 percent of the US population has been exposed to the virus at some point, so it is very important to vaccinate young people before they initiate sexual activity,” Misiukiewicz says. Doing so would eventually lead to a decrease in incidence and prevalence of this cancer, he says.

Most people who contract HPV clear the infection on their own, and only a small fraction of patients will go on to develop HPV-positive cancer, Misiukiewicz says. But unlike cervical cancer, which can be detected early through regular pap smears, there are no preventative interventions for HPV-related oral cancers. Also, condoms cannot fully protect against the transmission of HPV, Misiukiewicz says. And according to the Oral Cancer Foundation, by the time cancer is detected in the mouth or throat, it’s usually pretty advanced.

“I don’t know what determines who develops the cancer and who doesn’t,” Misiukiewicz says. “We still don’t know, but it does not mean once you’ve been exposed you’re going to develop the cancer.” A study published in the Journal of Clinical Oncology echoed his point: In trying to determine the risks patients with HPV-positive oropharyngeal cancer posed to their partners, researchers found that the partners did not have higher oral HPV infection when compared with the general population. As a result, their cancer risk remained low.

Bolnick and his wife participated in that study. She ultimately had her tonsils removed because she came back positive for HPV and was at a higher risk for cancer, he says.

Bolnick has been cancer-free now for six years. He admits he had no knowledge of HPV’s links to cancer prior to his diagnosis. “Not at all,” he says. When he met with the doctor who would ultimately treat him, he says he didn’t really understand what it all meant.

“I still don’t fully understand,” he says. At the time, “it really didn’t connect with me. To be honest with you, I was so overwhelmed with the fear with what I was going through. I wasn’t really focused on the cause as I was on how to fix it.”

“It [was] an experience beyond life-changing and scary,” Bolnick says. “It is just a painful process.”

Source: vice.com