In my daily counselling & interactions with many single guys and ladies, I see alot of things many of them are thinking and afraid of that can make them become ‘left behind’ when it comes to getting a man/lady to marry. I want to point out 7 things that cannot stop you or prevent you from getting your own marriage partner.
Many atimes, our society makes it look like, this things are barriers to getting a life partner, but I can tell you that, so many people who are married now had one or two of these things, and yet they got married. In fact, many of them are rightly and wonderfully married and are enjoying their marriage. Come with me as we see the seven things that can’t stop you from getting married.
- SPIRITUALITY: One of the erroneous beliefs in the mind of many singles is that, spirituality is a barrier to finding a life partner. Many ladies feel , if they are ‘too spiritual’ , guys will not want to marry them. They feel, if you are a church girl or Jesus’ girl, you won’t get a guy to marry you, and you see how many ladies who were once vibrant for the Lord began to lower their spiritual standards and mixing up carnality with their lifestyle just to be able to win a guy by all means. There are many spiritual brothers too, who are becoming cold spiritually because they feel all ladies want a ‘happening guy’.
The truth is this, so many people who are wayward, lukewarm, carnal, etc still admire spiritually sound guys and ladies. Don’t enter spiritual coma just because you are looking for a life partner. Jesus still have spiritual, yet slaying daughters/sons of His that He can give to spiritual people to be married in holy matrimony
2: PROSPERITY: God’s blessings and prosperity has nothing to do with your age. There are young ladies who are blessed by God in their single days, and people tell them to hide the blessings so as to see a suitor. For example, they tell you, if you are a single lady, even if God bless you with a car, never drive; so that you will not intimidate guys and send them away from you. Hear this lady, any guy you get by hidding God’s blessings in your life, you must be ready to keep hidding God’s prosperity in your life to keep him in marriage. The prosperity of God in your life can’t stop you from getting married. It only depends on how you handle it.
- VIRGINITY: Another lie many singles believe is that, if you are still a virgin, you might not get a good man/lady to marry you. I am aware that many guys scorn virginity on social media, but don’t mind them. Many of them wish they are the first that will ‘ open the gate’ of their wives. There are people who married as virgins at 23, 25 and there are people who married as virgins at age 30, 35 and more. There are many single ladies who are being lured into a lifestyle of sexual recklessness now, just because their friends are telling them that, before you can get a guy to marry you, you must get rid of your virginity first. Young virgin lady, never buy that lie! If you do, you will regret it! Myself and my Queen got married as virgins. Our virginity did not hinder us from meeting each other.
4: DISABILITY: There are singles who have written themselves off and losing the hope of getting someone to marry them because of one Physical disability or the other they are having. May be you are a starmmerer , may be you have partial deafness, or you are dumb, you have hunch back, you have visual impediment, speech impediment, or you are on a wheelchair. Think not that you cannot get marry because of any of this Physical challenges you have. It is true that, such Physical challenges can limit your chances of getting a marriage partner on time because so many people have the mentality that they can’t marry someone with any form of Physical challenges. But I can assure you that, there are so many people who will find you irresistible and fit for them to be married to them. Only the dead cannot marry. Look beyond your Physical challenges, and develop yourself. There is someone looking for exactly You! I know a blind man who is married. I know a lady on a wheelchair who is married and she has 4 lovely Children. I know many people using crutches who are married. Disability is not inability to be married. Thou shall be married!
- VICINITY: Don’t ever think that, you can’t see someone to marry until you travel out. There are guys and ladies in U.S, in South Africa, in Canada who are yet to see who to marry and there are people in remote villages who have many suitors to choose from. That’s one of the ironies of life. A marriage partner is not from abroad but from above. If you are led to travel or change location, there is nothing bad in it. But stop living in 6 states within a year just because you are thinking where you are is what is affecting you from getting a life partner. There is no where you are living now that God can’t cause your path to cross the path of your partner.
- DECENT DRESSING: Don’t ever think that, dressing well will stop you from getting a right spouse to marry you. I see so many singles, especially ladies, becoming mad women all in the name of dressing to attract Mr.Right. Many now wear rags all in the name of ‘positioning’ and becoming ‘visible’ for Mr.Right. If you think it is by revealing your breasts, cleavage, laps, back and bumbum that men will come to propose marriage to you, you are wrong! Many of them will rush to you ,but their aim is to ‘eat’ you rush rush. You will just be a sex objects to satisfy their sexual urge.
We still have discipline guys and ladies who dress well and they are getting married. Stop posting pictures where you are dressed as if you are undressing. What are your breasts doing outside in public gaze? Are you that desperate? There are many discipline men like me who are still fascinated by ladies who dressed modestly. It was one of the things that attracted my Queen to me. Decent dressing cannot stop you from getting the right person to marry, indecent dressing can do that.
7: BODY STATISTICS: Wether you are tall or short does not matter. Wether your breasts are small or voluminous does not matter. Wether you are fat or thin does not matter. There is someone looking for your size! There are men who will never marry small breasted ladies, they want it BIG! On the other hand, there are men who are not going to marry ladies with big breasts, they are looking for ladies who have it SMALL! No matter your lots, someone is interested in your kind. Stopping killing yourself over what you can’t change. If you feel you want to shed weight, please do. If you feel you want to add weight, please do. But things you don’t have power and control over, don’t overstress yourself over them. No matter how you look, there is someone who looks like you and he/she is married now. So, your wedding day is coming too.
I hope this encourage someone reading, keep hope alive. Don’t compromise your faith and standard of purity. Don’t allow anything to bring fear to you. Be hopeful! Be expectant! Be preparing! Keep excelling! Remember, none of these seven (7) things can stop you from getting married.
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© Ebenezer Diyaolu
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