Posted in World News

Audio:Mother forces daughter 11 into prostitution, gives her a target of 4-7 men a day each paying K10

Last Month I was connected to a women ,she sounded so depressed and sad on phone.She was panicking and in a state of confusion.

This girl is from one of the compounds in Zambia, after her father died, her biological mother forced her into prostitution at age 11 and made her into a sex slave.She forced her to sleep with 4-7 men a day and the men would pay k10 that they later used for food and other basic things. When I sat down with Grace (not real names) she told me she slept with so many men such that she lost count, she saw so many older men come into her mother’s home to sexually abuse her.

She had seen more men strip her naked and had seen so men Older men, married men, pastors, respected people in society sneak in at night parking big vehicles to come and sexually abuse her. Some would bring k10 and others would just sexually abuse her and escape.

She told me her worst experience was when she wanted to refuse, one man become like a demon and become extremely violent and wanted to strangle her, kicked her and Insulted her and spat on her saying she was just a chamber but her mother ignored all that and just continued watching TV all she wanted was the money. So i lay there with tears in my eyes as this man sexually abused me.
When her mother died of menegitis last year December she told me she was the happiest person alive.

At 15 years Grace is 3 months pregnant and HIV positive and is being treated for Syphilis. She is a strong girl and we thank God for everyone who came through and is coming through and is reshaping the life for this girl.

By Buumba Malambo, Child Activist

Posted in Marital

How to make your fiance’s mother love and accept you.

Be sure you are right for her son, if you are not, she will know and will not accept you.

Mothers have very strong intuition about their children especially godly mothers. She knows a million miles off if your motive for her son is to make his life better or worse.

Contribute meaningfully into her son’s life!

Ladies who only agree to marry a man because he has a car and lives in a choice apartment without contributing anything whatsoever to his life except reap where they have not sown should not expect the mother-in-law to-be give them the green card!

Your role in man’s life is to help him achieve greatness not suck all the element of greatness out of him.

If his life has changed noticeably since he met you, she will know and love you for it.

Show her utmost respect.

It’s not easy birthing, training and raising the adult you fell in love with and wants to marry. She deserves kudos for a good job well done. Respect, honour and appreciate her for being a great mother.

Call her often.

When you visit (not on the first visit), buy her gifts.

Assist with chores if you meet her doing something when you visit.

Genuinely love her from the depth of your heart.

Genuinely love her son.

Respect her son.

Speak well of her son.

Tell her the qualities you love about her son and appreciate her for training him well.

Ask God to give you favor in her sight.

Ask God to give you wisdom on how best to relate with her.

Overlook her weaknesses. Your mum has some too.

Tell your fiance things you like about his mother.

Learn her language if you are from a different tribe and endeavor to speak the little you know whenever you are with her.

Always dress decently.

Avoid local or international gossip.

Always speak with wisdom.

Do not answer questions you are not asked.

Be patient with her if she is slow at accepting you. She is studying you. She needs to be sure you are really the r
ight person for her son.

Do not be judgmental.

Smile always.

Carry God with you every time.

Believe you will be favoured and you will.

Not all mothers in-law are evil.

Set the right foundation for your marriage.

If you can win her love in courtship and continue to win her love into marriage and never stop being a virtuous woman, your marriage to her son will be nothing short of heaven on earth.

May your marriage be sweet!
Thanks for reading. God bless you. Cheers!

© Seun Oladele