Tag: MARRIAGE

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Why it is important to solve issues quickly in marriage

Posted on by Kofi Tutu
  1. To enjoy sleep. Sleep is a struggle when you are not in good terms with your spouse
  2. To prevent your spouse or yourself from being tempted into an affair. Most affairs start in moments of offense, when you are mad at your spouse or your spouse is mad at you and an outsider gives you a shoulder to lean on OR gives your spouse a shoulder to lean on
  3. To prevent a small issue from growing into bigger issues or complications. Any unresolved matters morphs into huge threats that will be harder to solve
  4. To show your spouse that you value what you two have. How much you value your marriage will be seen in how quick you solve matters
  5. For the sake of peace at home. The home is the one place you should come to find peace. The biggest impediment to peace at home is unresolved issues
  6. For the sake of the children. You cannot parent children in a healthy way if you two are at war
  7. To prevent you two from drifting apart. Each day that goes with you two not talking to each well you two drift apart
  8. To train your reconciliation muscle. Reconciliation is a practice you constantly need to teach yourselves if you want to have a strong marriage
  9. To focus on more important things such as investing together, raising children well, touching lives and fulfilling purpose. You can’t do all these in an environment of offense
  10. To prevent misinterpretations and assumptions. When you two are not in good talking terms, you read too much into each other’s words and actions, assuming the worst, thus giving birth to new issues
  11. To prevent yourselves from resenting each other. As long as you two don’t reconcile, you are giving room to resentment. Soon, you will both start to despise each other and offense will lead to more offense
  12. To protect your intimacy. Your emotional, physical and sexual intimacy will be destroyed if you two remain mad at each other. Offense brings loneliness, sexual frustration, alcoholism and porn addiction. Many married are looking for escapes because their marriage has issues. Sometimes your spouse will not want to make love to you, not because he/she is having an affair but because of offense
  13. So that you two can fulfil the vision of your marriage. You will not walk in agreement if you don’t see eye to eye. Don’t destroy everything you two have built and were meant to build
  14. So that you two don’t end up divorcing due to irreconcilable differences
    © Akello Oliech and Dayan Masinde
Posted in Marital

Why some women and men are not happy in their marriage

Posted on by Kofi Tutu
  1. THEY MARRIED FOR THE WRONG REASONS
    Either because they got pregnant, they got pressured, they did it to fit in society, for money, to please their parents or out of pity or obligation to the one they married. The why of getting married will always catch up with you. Love is what will not only keep you married but also keep you fulfilled in marriage. If you did marry for the wrong reasons, be determined to grow love
  2. THEY DIDN’T COUNT THE COST
    Before you venture into anything, make sure you understand what you’re getting into. Many don’t measure their expectations well. Marriage will not always be easy, sometimes there will be storms; that is why it requires commitment. If you don’t prepare yourself, the storms will overwhelm you
  3. THEY ARE CONTROL FREAKS
    People who always have to have their way, things always have to be done as they want or who always have to win will not enjoy marriage. Being a control freak will make it hard for your spouse to live and build with you. Marriage will not always dance to your tune. Marriage needs team work
  4. THEY HAVE TURNED MARRIAGE INTO A GENDER BATTLE
    People who approach marriage from the angle of their being men’s roles vs women’s roles will turn their marriage into a battle between them and their spouse. They will easily detach themselves when they feel an area in their marriage is not their role, leading to keeping scores in order to prove who between husband and wife is doing better and who is wrong. Marriage is about oneness. He fails, she fails; she succeeds, he succeeds. Marriage is not a clash of him vs she
  5. LACK OF PRAYER
    Marriage is God’s idea so why do it without God? Oh what peace we often forfeit, all because we do not carry everything to God in prayer
  6. THEY HAVE TURNED MARRIAGE INTO A COMPETITION
    Before there was Keeping up the Kardashians, there was Keeping up with the Joneses which was a phrase coined to mean the desire to keep up with your neighbour. Many married people are like this. They are competing with other marriages or playing catch up. They see their neighbour has bought a second car, so they buy a second car too merely to show they are capable too. They take loans, pile up their debt, buy unnecessary things, buy unnecessary gifts for their children just so that they feel at par with their contemporaries. Any marriage that lacks a solid identity will fall for this trap. This rat race leads to unhappiness and a meaningless marriage
  7. THEY ARE INSECURE
    When you are insecure, you feel that your position is always under threat. This gets its roots from having a low self-esteem. Insecurity will make you feel you are not good enough hence the need to stamp your authority and prove your worth. This is why some men beat up their wives, this is why some find themselves telling their spouse “You don’t know who you’re messing with”, “Do you know who I am?”, “Leo utajua mimi ni nani”. Insecurity will make you suspect your spouse and accuse your spouse falsely. Insecurity will make you worry, become over protective choking your spouse’s social life and space. It will make you a snoop, waiting for your spouse to slip up in order to validate your paranoia. Your worth will constantly be on trial; leading to no peace
  8. THEY ARE RIGID
    Marriage, life is a journey. If you are too uptight, you will not fully live out life’s adventure. Stop living such a scripted life, stop living in a box. Because of this, many have a pathetic sex life in marriage, they feel life is boring and feel caged. Be open sexually, laugh, dance, take risks with your spouse, go for a drive, travel, go out on dates, do embarrassing stuff, stop being so polished, play games, have fun
  9. THEY COPY-PASTE
    Each marriage is unique and has its own story. When you try and force your marriage to be like that of your role models, mentors, friends, celebrity icons, parents; you and your spouse will be frustrated. Yes, learn the principles that make any marriage work but find your pattern, style and story as a couple
  10. THEY HOLD GRUDGE
    In marriage, you will be wronged by your spouse and you too will fall short sometimes, this is because marriage is a process of growth as you both become better. If you fail to forgive your spouse, holding a grudge, constantly reminding your spouse of his/her past wrongs; the climate between you two will be cold and pathetic. Why would you cloud the marriage you are a part of for life? Forgive. Move on from issues. Don’t keep opening up old wounds
  11. TOO MANY VOICES
    When you listen and live by too many voices you will never be at peace. You have no voice of your own but get manipulated by others. Your mom tells you this, your friends tell you that, rumors making you feel a certain way, your close friends say you do this. Why are you letting your marriage be run by outsiders? Why are you being a puppet in your marriage controlled by people who think they know what is best for you and your spouse?
  12. LACK OF AGREEMENT
    Every marriage will face the same issues. The strong couples are the wise ones who as husband and wife, they agree on how they will handle those issues: Finances, work, in-laws, communication, children and such. Sometimes it is not that your spouse is insensitive, lazy or difficult; it is just that you two have not agreed on how to handle issues. When the agreement is clear, loving and teamwork is easier. Come to this agreement when things are good between you two and as you grow along. Don’t wait for crisis to bring you to the table of agreement. How can two walk together unless they agree?
  13. THEY SEPARATE PARENTHOOD FROM MARRIAGE
    Don’t succeed in being a great parent yet fail as a spouse. You, your spouse and children live in one house; act as a family. When you are a great spouse, it translates to a loving home where the child/children feel safe, surrounded by love and secure. When you are a great parent, that should bring you and your spouse more together. Find a balance
  14. THEY COVET OTHER MARRIAGES
    There is no way you will belittle your marriage and praise the marriage of others and expect to be happy in your marriage. When you look at other couples and complain to your spouse why your marriage is not like theirs; essentially you are undermining your own and making your spouse feel unappreciated. It has nothing to do with the grass being greener on the other side, other people’s marriages are none of your business; work on your own
  15. THEY ENTERTAIN DISTRACTIONS
    Don’t flirt with other people, entertain their advances, emotionally cheat on your spouse by leaning on others; then expect to be happy in your marriage. Invest all your effort, emotions and creativity in your marriage. Even pornography is a form of distraction; you lust after bodies and sexual experiences with strangers that slowly mislead your desires from your spouse. Your marriage will grow according to how you feed it or deteriorate according to how you starve it
  16. THEY ARE UNWILLING TO LEARN
    Love is a learning process. Marriage will teach you many lessons. Marriage will present to you opportunities to be a better person, to learn how to be more loving, how to listen, how to give, how to apologize. If you are full of pride you will never learn, you will never grow, you will never be fulfilled in marriage

© Dayan Masinde and Akello Oliech

Posted in General News

Ban On Social Gatherings Does Not Include Marriage Ceremonies – Oppong-Nkrumah

Posted on by Kofi Tutu

The Minister-designate for Information, Mr. Kojo Oppong-Nkrumah, has explained that the reintroduction of a ban on social restrictions as announced by President Akufo-Addo last Sunday, does not include the ban on marriage ceremonies.

Rather, he says the social activity of parties and/or receptions associated with occasions such as funerals and marriage ceremonies is what has been banned.

Consequently, he says, marriage ceremonies, which are held in the churches, and mosques where there is strict adherence to COVID-19 protocols can go on.

Mr. Oppong-Nkrumah gave the clarification on Tuesday at a press briefing on the government’s COVID-19 response in the country.

Ban reintroduced

President Akufo-Addo last Sunday reintroduced a ban on all social events, including weddings, funerals, and other social events as part of interventions to halt the surge of the Coronavirus in the country.

The directive, according to the President, was based on data, which suggests that the surge in cases was as a result of non-adherence to preventive protocols at such social gatherings.

Confusion

The President’s announcement has however triggered discussions among some sections of the public.

Some have questioned why religious gatherings under strict protocols as prescribed and for two hours have been allowed but events such as funerals and weddings have been banned.

Clarification

Throwing more light on the President’s directive, Mr. Oppong-Nkrumah explained that “the President did not say that marriages are banned.”

Likewise, he said burial services were allowed but with a limited number of 25 persons at the ceremony.

“The president did not ban burial service because the activity of burial, we actually encourage to go on… What is banned in the funeral where typically in the Ghanaian community we will all gather, shake hands, announcement of people, then they’ll call for a song, people will come and dance, where there is a little party associated with it. That is what has been banned,” he explained.

“In the same way, when it comes to marriage, what the president has said is that, what in Ghana we call wedding, the full-blown wedding where we have a big party with a reception and people dancing and people eating, sitting at reception tables, etc, that is what has been banned,” he added.

“We’ve got a lot of requests about so what if somebody is having a church service, which is allowed, and they choose to bless their marriage there as part of the church service. I’m not sure that is what has been banned. It’s the wedding. The full-blown wedding with its reception and social activity associated with it is what has been banned,” Mr Oppong-Nkrumah explained further.

Case update

The Director-General of the Ghana Health Service (GHS), Dr. Patrick Kuma-Aboagye noted that as at January 30, 2021, Ghana had recorded 5,515 active cases, 424 deaths and 61,843 discharges or clinical recoveries.

He also noted that the Greater Accra Region accounted for 56.7 percent of total cases, while the Ashanti and Western Regions accounted for 16.0 and 6.1 percent of cases respectively.

He added that 294 persons who had tested positive for COVID-19 were on admission, with 34 being critical, 122 being severe and 138 being mild to moderate cases.

Soure: Graphiconline.com

Posted in Marital

Five ways to know that a guy is really serious for marriage

Posted on by Kofi Tutu

About a week ago, a lady approached me and asked me how she would know that a guy is really serious for marriage. She said that a guy is coming for her and she is worried if the guy is serious or one of those hit and run guys.

So, I told her some things or rather how she will know that a guy is really serious for marriage and not one of those sex predators or time wasters guys.

Maybe as a lady, you are in this kind of situation. You are in a relationship with a guy but you are not sure if this guy is really serious for marriage or has come to waste your time and drive away potential life partners. This article is for you.

In this article, what I intend to do is to show you how you can spot a guy that is serious for marriage and wants to walk down the aisle with you. You really need to take this seriously because your time, prime, resources and potential life partners are at stake.

One wrong guy in a relationship with you will waste your time, resources and drive away or block other guys that really want to settle down with you.

So, how will you know that guy that’s promising you heaven and is serious for marriage?

  1. He will introduce you to important people in his life

If a guy is serious with you, he will waste no time in introducing you to people that matter to him, his pastor, mentors, family, colleagues, friends etc.

You have being dating a guy for some time now, say 1 year or 2 years and you don’t know who his parents are, you don’t know any of his siblings, colleagues or friends, and whenever you bring up the issue, he will change the topic, Aunty be careful, na express you dey go!

  1. He will also to want to meet important people in your life

A guy that is serious for marriage will not only introduce you to important people in his life but will also try to meet important people in your own life so as to make things official and formal.

When you are in a relationship with a guy that’s hide and seek with you, whenever you bring up the issue of him coming to meet your parents, he divert the conversation or run off, then you should know that he isn’t serious and you shouldn’t waste your time with a guy that for a year or 2 years he has refused to meet your parents or important people in your life. Don’t do that.

  1. He will stay

For many guys, their number one aim for entering into a relationship is to have sex. Some of them will tell you, “If you love me prove it.” Some of them once you tell them that there will be nothing like sex until after marriage, they will zoom off without looking back. Some of them will threaten you that if you don’t have sex with them, they will break up with you and all that.

But when you tell a guy that there will be nothing like sex until after marriage and he stays, he doesn’t disturb you about sex, and he doesn’t threaten to leave if you should fail to give him sex, that may be a sign that he is serious about getting married to you.

As a lady, one thing you need to know is that sex doesn’t keep a man. If a man doesn’t want to stay with you, give him all sex styles in the world, doggy style, hossy style, scorpion style, cat style, etc., he will not stay. A guy that wants you will stay with or without sex.

  1. He will include you in his plans and major decisions

When a guy begins to include you in plans and major decisions in life, you should know that he is seeing you in his future but when you are with a guy that hides things from you, he never tells you his next move or actions or his whereabouts, he just shows up and disappears anytime he wants, that’s guy that is not seeing you in his future.

A man wants to marry a woman that will be useful in his future, so when a guy includes you in his plans and decisions, you should think that he’s considering you useful to his future. We don’t go about sharing our plans with anyone that cares to listen but with those we consider important to use. The point is, when a guy includes you in his plans and decisions, he is seeing the future with you.

  1. Subject everything to prayers

Prayer remains the master key. So, for your time not to be wasted, for you not to chase away potential life partners, for your heart not to be broken, subject everything to God prayers.

Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you:(Matthew 7:7 KJV)

The secret things belong unto the Lord our God: but those things which are revealed belong unto us and to our children for ever, that we may do all the words of this law.(Deuteronomy 29:29 KJV)

You are in a relationship with a guy and you are not sure if this guy is God’s will or even serious for marriage talk less of being God’s will, you have some prayers to do.

You shall not miss it in marriage!

Thanks for reading
© Okolie Samuel

Posted in Marital

10 ways to avoid sex before marriage

Posted on by Kofi Tutu

Sometime ago, I was anchoring a question and answer program on WhatsApp and someone asked me how she can avoid having sex before marriage. For the benefit of others, I decided to write an article on it.

Let me start by stating that sex itself is NOT a sin. Sex was created by God. As a matter of fact, God created us with sexual organs because He wants us to have sex. Sex is a gift from God to us BUT it’s to be enjoyed by ONLY legally married COUPLE. The only time God expects us to have sex is when we are married not before.

Premarital and extramarital sex are sins. They may be fun but not honorable. If you notice those two words, one carries the prefix “pre” and the other “extra” and what’s that telling us sex before(pre) or outside of marriage(extra) is not right. Sex is meant to be only in marriage (marital).

Avoiding sex before marriage, not just because it’s the right thing to do, will save you from lots of avoidable ugly experiences, guilty conscience, STDs, unwanted pregnancy, stagnation, death, God’s judgment, abortion, etc. It pays to avoid sex before marriage. You will make God happy and at the same time save yourself from troubles. So, close up and zip up.

Hebrews 13:4 says, “Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled; but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.” Avoiding sex before marriage is an honorable something to do. Maybe you are in a relationship right now and you sincerely desire to maintain sexual purity, to avoid sex before marriage, this article is meant for you. I present to you 10 ways you can avoid sex before marriage.

  1. Decide

In Daniel 1:8 the Bible says that Daniel purposed or decided in his heart that he won’t defile himself. Likewise, you have to make a decision. Life is all about decisions. Nothing gets done without a definite decision.

Daniel was able to overcome because he decided. So, you and your partner have to decide too that you guys are not going to have sex, you’ve to make up your mind that you will not have sex till marriage. That’s the foundation you are going to lay every other thing on.

  1. Guide Your Mind

Proverbs 4:23 says, “Guide your heart with all diligence because out of it flows the issues of life.” Your mind is the gateway to your life. What goes on in your mind determines what goes on in your life.

So, guide your heart from pollution, watch the things you fill your mind with, watch the music you listen to, the videos you watch, the things you read etc. These things have the power to influence your life.

  1. Mind Your Conversations

In Colossian 3:8 the Bible says that we should put off every filthy communication out of our mouths. Avoid using obscene words, erotic words or suggestive words. Avoid sex chatting. Mind your use of words. In short, avoid words that can turn you on.

  1. Renew Your Mind

Romans 12:2 says that we should renew our minds because that’s only when we will be able to judge rightly. When you are always horny or having an erection, you have been filling your mind with sexual stuff, your mind needs renewing.

Watch, listen and read positive things, mostly importantly the Word of God. Listen to nice songs, sermons. That’s how to renew your mind. Remember, it’s garbage in garbage out. It’s what you fill your mind with that it will process and give you back in return. You can’t fill your mind with negativity and expecting to live positively.

  1. Avoid Too Much Closeness

The Bible asked a question in Proverbs that can a man take fire in his bosom will not be burnt? If you don’t want fire to burn you, don’t go close.

Avoid too much closeness. It can spark into flames. Men aren’t the only one that lust, women too. Avoid too much unnecessary closeness in any form or shape physically or online.

  1. Avoid Staying In Secluded Place Alone

Sin thrives in secret very much. To avoid having sex, try as much as possible to avoid staying alone in a secluded place together. If visiting him or her will make you both to fall into it, stop visiting, let your meetings be in an open place.

  1. Don’t Cohabit

Cohabiting means living together when you guys aren’t married. Cohabiting for whatever reason is not right. That’s actually a sin. We should avoid every appearance of evil.

You are only expected to live together after you are married not before you are married unless of course if sexual purity is not your thing. Body is not iron it must react especially when emotion is involved. It’s a harmattan fire! You can’t keep a goat and yam in the same house and expects nothing to happen.

  1. Stop Collecting Or Requesting For Money

I’m talking to our beautiful ladies now. For some guys, giving you money or anything equals giving them right to ask for sex. So, don’t ask and rarely collect when they give you.

When you keep asking or collecting money, when they ask for sex you’ll feel obligated especially when they start blackmailing you emotionally, “After all I’ve done for you,” “After giving you this or that,” you get my point?

  1. As For Grace In time past, sexual temptations, immorality and perversions are not rampant like it is now. You turn here and there sex. In the midst of all these, you need God’s enabling power(grace) to come out victorious.

The urge to sin is stronger than your will. It’s not of him that willeth but of God that showeth mercy. You have decided many times not to have sex but you keep failing into it despite your decisions. It’s good to make decision but much more than that, you need grace. So, ask for God’s grace. You can’t do it on your own.

  1. Avoid Getting Intimate

Don’t eat the food while it’s still on the fire. You’re the same person that will eat it when it’s cooked. So, avoid kissing, romancing, touching, smooching, unnecessary hugging etc., these are launching pad to sex!

Let me conclude by saying that, maintaining sexual purity pays, it will give you peace of mind, it will save you from troubles and more importantly you will make God happy.

Thanks for reading.
© Okolie Samuel

Source:Gnews.com

Posted in Marital

12 things you must know before getting married

Posted on by Kofi Tutu
  1. No matter how posh your spouse is, just remember that one day, they’ll use the toilet and may not remember to flush it well. Yes you’ll see his/her faeces. Does that sound nice?
  2. As much as you both will smell nice to occasions with glamourous apparels, sometimes you’d wake up to their bad breaths and body odour! They won’t always smell nice.
  3. Your wife during dating wore her best panties. In marriage, you might see more of torn panties, and shame won’t even catch her. Be ready, that your hubby who changed boxer everyday during dating days might be wearing one for a week in marriage.
  4. For men with blown egos, one day your wife will challenge, beat her hand to her chest, and you won’t do anything. Lol. Ntor!
  5. Some days you’d fight with your spouse all through the day, but you’ll be forced to apologise even when you’re not at fault because you’ll be horny at night and can’t just hold it. Konji will humble your ego.
  6. Your seraphic and sanctimonious spouse who you hardly saw any fault in, after honeymoon might be the most annoying thing ever. E dey clear for eyes sometimes. lol
  7. As a man who’s all passionate about sex now, you can’t wait to marry. A time will come in marriage, she’d walk around naked and your dick won’t even erect. “Young woman abeg let me rest I’m tired..”
  8. Your wife will provoke you and you’d reject food, thinking she’d beg, and she’d just walk away and go to bed. Las las, you’ll hide and go and eat. That’s what we call trimming your ego. Holds laugh
  9. Your spouse might love you, but you’ll have to deal with the reality that there might be one of your siblings they won’t really like sha.
  10. There might be times you’ll wake up and feel like, “how did I even marry this person”. You’ll feel like you just want to be, not because they necessarily did anything wrong o. But guess what? No exit door.
  11. Be ready, what used to trip you about your spouse might wane with time. Marriage comes with a lot of rediscovery and plethora of phases.
  12. When you have kids, sometimes you’ll just be tired. You’ll feel like taking a break from parenting. As in, you’ll just want to throw them into your neighbor’s house. But no escape for you. They are products of your orgasm.

(Jara)
At some point, you’ll be feeling your spouse is the most amazing person in the world till you meet someone else who is 200% better than them. Marriage isn’t about having the best, but building your best.

So are you ready mentally and emotionally?

Your marriage is what you make it to be. Enjoy your home. You will not fail in Marriage in Jesus name

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Posted in Marital

Seven things that cannot stop you from getting a marriage partner.

Posted on by Kofi Tutu

In my daily counselling & interactions with many single guys and ladies, I see alot of things many of them are thinking and afraid of that can make them become ‘left behind’ when it comes to getting a man/lady to marry. I want to point out 7 things that cannot stop you or prevent you from getting your own marriage partner.

Many atimes, our society makes it look like, this things are barriers to getting a life partner, but I can tell you that, so many people who are married now had one or two of these things, and yet they got married. In fact, many of them are rightly and wonderfully married and are enjoying their marriage. Come with me as we see the seven things that can’t stop you from getting married.

  1. SPIRITUALITY: One of the erroneous beliefs in the mind of many singles is that, spirituality is a barrier to finding a life partner. Many ladies feel , if they are ‘too spiritual’ , guys will not want to marry them. They feel, if you are a church girl or Jesus’ girl, you won’t get a guy to marry you, and you see how many ladies who were once vibrant for the Lord began to lower their spiritual standards and mixing up carnality with their lifestyle just to be able to win a guy by all means. There are many spiritual brothers too, who are becoming cold spiritually because they feel all ladies want a ‘happening guy’.

The truth is this, so many people who are wayward, lukewarm, carnal, etc still admire spiritually sound guys and ladies. Don’t enter spiritual coma just because you are looking for a life partner. Jesus still have spiritual, yet slaying daughters/sons of His that He can give to spiritual people to be married in holy matrimony

2: PROSPERITY: God’s blessings and prosperity has nothing to do with your age. There are young ladies who are blessed by God in their single days, and people tell them to hide the blessings so as to see a suitor. For example, they tell you, if you are a single lady, even if God bless you with a car, never drive; so that you will not intimidate guys and send them away from you. Hear this lady, any guy you get by hidding God’s blessings in your life, you must be ready to keep hidding God’s prosperity in your life to keep him in marriage. The prosperity of God in your life can’t stop you from getting married. It only depends on how you handle it.

  1. VIRGINITY: Another lie many singles believe is that, if you are still a virgin, you might not get a good man/lady to marry you. I am aware that many guys scorn virginity on social media, but don’t mind them. Many of them wish they are the first that will ‘ open the gate’ of their wives. There are people who married as virgins at 23, 25 and there are people who married as virgins at age 30, 35 and more. There are many single ladies who are being lured into a lifestyle of sexual recklessness now, just because their friends​ are telling them that, before​ you can get a guy to marry you, you must get rid of your virginity first. Young virgin lady, never buy that lie! If you do, you will regret it! Myself and my Queen got married as virgins. Our virginity did not hinder us from meeting each other.

4: DISABILITY: There are singles who have written themselves off and losing the hope of getting someone to marry them because of one Physical disability or the other they are having. May be you are a starmmerer , may be you have partial deafness, or you are dumb, you have hunch back, you have visual impediment, speech impediment, or you are on a wheelchair​. Think not that you cannot get marry because of any of this Physical challenges you have. It is true that, such Physical challenges can limit your chances of getting a marriage partner on time because so many people have the mentality that they can’t marry someone with any form of Physical challenges. But I can assure you that, there are so many people who will find you irresistible and fit for them to be married to them. Only the dead cannot marry. Look beyond your Physical challenges, and develop yourself. There is someone looking for exactly You! I know a blind man who is married. I know a lady on a wheelchair who is married and she has 4 lovely Children. I know many people using crutches who are married. Disability is not inability to be married. Thou shall be married!

  1. VICINITY: Don’t ever think that, you can’t see someone to marry until you travel out. There are guys and ladies in U.S, in South Africa, in Canada who are yet to see who to marry and there are people in remote villages who have many suitors to choose from. That’s one of the ironies of life. A marriage partner is not from abroad but from above. If you are led to travel or change location, there is nothing bad in it. But stop living in 6 states within a year just because you are thinking where you are is what is affecting you from getting a life partner. There is no where you are living now that God can’t cause your path to cross the path of your partner.
  2. DECENT DRESSING: Don’t ever think that, dressing well will stop you from getting a right spouse to marry you. I see so many singles, especially ladies, becoming mad women all in the name of dressing to attract Mr.Right. Many now wear rags all in the name of ‘positioning’ and becoming ‘visible’ for Mr.Right. If you think it is by revealing your breasts, cleavage, laps, back and bumbum that men will come to propose marriage to you, you are wrong! Many of them will rush to you ,but their aim is to ‘eat’ you rush rush. You will just be a sex objects to satisfy their sexual urge.
    We still have discipline guys and ladies who dress well and they are getting married. Stop posting pictures where you are dressed as if you are undressing. What are your breasts doing outside in public gaze? Are you that desperate? There are many discipline men like me who are still fascinated by ladies who dressed modestly. It was one of the things that attracted my Queen to me. Decent dressing cannot stop you from getting the right person to marry, indecent dressing can do that.

7: BODY STATISTICS: Wether you are tall or short does not matter. Wether your breasts are small or voluminous does not matter. Wether you are fat or thin does not matter. There is someone looking for your size! There are men who will never marry small breasted ladies, they want it BIG! On the other hand, there are men who are not going to marry ladies with big breasts, they are looking for ladies who have it SMALL! No matter your lots, someone is interested in your kind. Stopping killing yourself over what you can’t change. If you feel you want to shed weight, please do. If you feel you want to add weight, please do. But things you don’t have power and control over, don’t overstress yourself over them. No matter how you look, there is someone who looks like you and he/she is married now. So, your wedding day is coming too.

I hope this encourage someone reading, keep hope alive. Don’t compromise your faith and standard of purity. Don’t allow anything to bring fear to you. Be hopeful! Be expectant! Be preparing! Keep excelling! Remember, none of these seven (7) things can stop you from getting married.

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HOW TO APOLOGIZE IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP OR MARRIAGE…

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  1. “Admit you are wrong”
    Many grown ups are not humble enough to admit to their fault. Will you mess up your love just because of your pride?
  2. “Explain why you did what you did”
    Give the background sequence of events that led to you being on the wrong. A blank apology doesn’t address the issue
  3. “Hear from your partner how he/she feels”
    Allow your partner to vent, cry, shout, and tell you how much your actions/words pain him/her. Emotions and hurt shouldn’t be hidden if true reconcilition and healing is to occur. This also shows you care for your partner’s feelings
  4. “Say sorry”
    Let your partner hear you say those words, ‘I am sorry, please forgive me’
  5. “Commit to not doing it again”
    Say you won’t repeat the mistake again and mean it. An apology is empty if it’s not sincere
  6. “Hear from your partner if you are forgiven”
    Get to hear your partner tell you ‘I forgive you’. It has to be official
  7. “Thank your partner for forgiving you”
    Appreciate the goodness of your partner’s heart to forgive you. It takes love to overlook your wrong, don’t take that for granted
  8. “Agree on a plan to keep the wrong from being repeated”
    This is why it is important to know the history that led to you doing or saying wrong; you two get to agree on what to do to prevent it from happening again
  9. “Seal it with a kiss”
    Kiss as soon you are given an official forgiveness. Now that your partner has forgiven you, your lips will be well-received
  10. “Make love”
    Your spouse’s heart feels safe because you care, you feel pardoned; make passionate love to bring you two even closer. Make-up sex
  11. “Do something sweet”
    Go out of your way to make your partner smile: leave a love note under the pillow, buy her flowers or a gift, cook his favourite meal, take a photo of the both you happy and frame it, cater to each other
  12. “Take your partner out on a date”
    Go out on a romantic and memorable date. Look into each other’s eyes, melt each other’s hearts, dress up and go out for a night to remember
  13. “Affirm each other’s love”
    Tell each other how much you love and mean to each other, leave no doubt about your love, show that you two still have love, ‘you’re still the one that I love.
  14. “Actually change”
    The best kind of sorry is when you actually change. Let your partner see a new you
  15. “Don’t keep a record of wrongs”
    Don’t keep reminding each other of your wrongs, move past the mistakes

You will not fail in Marriage in JESUS NAME

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HOW TO PROTECT YOUR MARRIAGE!

Posted on by Kofi Tutu

Even if you are married to the best spouse in the whole world, if you do not guard your heart, you may end up “falling in love” with someone aside your spouse and eventually ruin your
marriage.

No one gets married and plans to have affair but lots of married men and women are into affairs today because they slept when they should have been wide awake with their five senses alert.

  1. Don’t be too friendly with the opposite sex.
    This is where lots of married people land in trouble.
    Over spirituality and pride will destroy your marriage!
    You can’t handle close
    friendship with the opposite sex as a married person. Your
    heart is involved.
    Set boundaries.
    Be disciplined.
    Be cordial.
    Be respectful.
    Be godly.
    Be holy.
  2. Don’t share your personal problems with an opposite sex friend.
    It will bond you together. Problems bond people.
  3. Don’t contact any opposite sex you are fond of.
    If you secretly admire them, you are fond of them and there is a
    tingling in your heart at the mere thought of them, don’t contact!
  4. Avoid unnecessary eye contact that lingers with the
    opposite sex.
  5. Don’t tell an opposite sex you are romantic or sexy.
    That private information is for your spouse only.
  6. Avoid discussions with the opposite sex when you are tired,
    very sad, depressed, sorrowful, drowsy, sleepy or very sick.
    This can cloud your judgment and make you say silly things.
    Talk to your husband/wife instead.
  7. Avoid unnecessary compliment of the opposite sex.
  8. Stop saying “I love you” to the opposite sex.
    For what?
  9. Work on your Marriage. Keep the fire of love and romance alive in your Marriage.
  10. Protect your Family.
    Don’t share your marital problems with your opposite sex friend. It will bond you.
  11. Never flirt with the opposite sex.
  12. Mind the pictures you post on social media. Limit pictures that show your curves or portray you as sexy.
  13. Do not contact all your EX after mariage.
  14. Don’t chat with the opposite sex on the days you are vulnerable.
  15. Stop focusing on your spouse’s weaknesses and appreciate their strengths.
    If you always see the bad side of your spouse, you will be angry, bitter, critical and look for someone who can “understand” you and make you happy aside your spouse. That is the beginning of an emotional affair and eventual sexual affair. It is the beginning of the end of a once glorious marriage!

FLEE from all appearance of evil is what the Bible says.
What you will not eat, don’t bring it to your nose. Don’t smell it!
Don’t start what you cannot finish!
Avoid all emotional and sexual affairs. They will destroy your
marriage!

May you not take a step that will lead to eternal regret in
Jesus’ name.

PLEASE SEEK FOR THE FRUIT OF THE SPIRIT CALLED SELF CONTROL AND ALWAYS ANCHOR YOUR THOUGHTS ON PHIL 4:8.
GOD BLESS YOU.

Let this message get to the Good Women Leader and Men’s Fellowship Leader and let them share it on their various group platforms so all married men and women will get it. Let them discuss it at their meetings.

The Lord will keep our homes, marriages and keep us pure to reign with Him in Jesus name. Amen.

Thank you for reading.

You will not fail in Marriage in Jesus name

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