Sir Nana Tsibu Darku IX Service to Assin Atandansu Traditional Area.

Posted on January 20, 2021 by Kofi Tutu

Sir Nana Tsibu Darku IX alias Ekow Anaisie, alias Nicholas Andrew deHeer, was born in Cape Coast on Thursday 19th March, 1902.

His father was the late Adrian Nicholas deHeer of the Vanderpuye Anona family of Elmina, and a one time wholesale keeper of F&A swanzy at Axim. He was also a customs officer at Cape Coast until failing eyesight forced him to retire. He died in 1934.

His mother, the late Madam Efua Takyiwah, of the Assinie Royal family, Assin Atandansu, lived in cape coast. She traded in ”Aggrey” beads, often traveling between cape coast and Obuasi in Ashanti and thus become known as ”Nana Obuasi”. She was born in 1898 and died in 1964. Sir Tsibu was the third and last child.

Because of their mother’s frequent travels, their grandmother, Madam Nana Efua Sam, looked after them.

A frequent visitor to cape coast was their uncle, Nana Tsibu Mensah, Omanhene of Assin Atandansu Traditional Area. The far- seeing uncle, sent Sir Tsibu in 1908 to join his brother at the A. M. E. Zion School. When Sir Tsibu left Senior School in 1918 he entered S. P. G. Grammar School( Now Adisadel College) in 1919 and left in 1923 after passing the Cambridge junior school certificate Examinations.

He worked in the junior Division of the Political Administration as secretary to Mr. A. F. E. Fieldgate who was then the District commissioner, cape coast and they used to go on trek together in the cape coast district. In this way, Nana picked up a lot of his knowledge of British administration. The Assin stool family elders had opportunity to assess Sir Tsibu more than his elder brother. They used to bring all their problems to Sir Tsibu first before going to see the D.C or other officials.

Nana Tsibu Mensah abdicated in 1927 and went to live in cape coast. Later he left for Assin Nkran where he died in 1929.

The stool family put on the stool in 1927 a young teenager, Mr. Kweku Monney son of the Queen Mother of the Eku royal stool house and made one Mr. Bobie, the Gyasehene as Regent. This brought about so much dissention within the traditional area that the young chief abdicated in June 1930 and left to continue his education at S. P. G Grammar School. It was decided by the stool elders to take an older person as Omanhene and Sir Tsibu, who hailed from the Gyemfuah royal stool house, was unanimously selected and enstooled in October, 1930.

Nana’s primary concerns after his enstoolment were the Health and Educational facilities for the people.

He established the first native Authority Dispensaries at Fante Nyankumasi in 1936. A Maternity Clinic was added in 1939. The clinic is now a Health Centre. He was very instrumental in getting the Roman Catholic Church to establish the Catholic Hospital at Assin Foso and in getting successive government to recognise and support the Hospital.

He keen interest and leadership in promoting public health activities led to the digging of wells in all the towns and villages of Assin. This helped suppress the guinea- worm disease and the people of Ayaase sent a delegation to thank Sir Tsibu for delivering them from this pestilence.

There were only four schools in the whole Assin Area in the 1930s, namely the Methodist school at Assin Foso, the Methodist school at Assin Edubiase 8 miles away, the Methodist school at Assin Manso capital of Assin Apimanim Traditional area, and the catholic school at Assin Darmang. Sir Tsibu started the first Native authority school at Fante Nyankumasi in 1935 and subsequently during the second word war many towns and villages had their own primary schools.

More soon….

Source: Gnews.com/ Kofi Tutu

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Parliament Approves Business, Appointments C’ttees Subject To Recommendations

Posted on January 20, 2021 by Kofi Tutu

Parliament, on Tuesday 19/01/2021 approved the composition of membership of the Business Committee and the Appointments Committee of the House subject to six strong recommendations by the Committee of Selection. The composition of the two Committees were based on the approved ratio of 138 : 137 subject to recommendations.

Based on this ratio, the 20 Member the Business Committee is split in the middle between the National Democratic Congress (NDC) Minority Group and the New Patriotic Party (NPP) Majority Group with each group having 10 members. The Appointments Committee also had 13 members each for the NDC and NPP.

Before putting the question for the approval of the Selection Committee report, Speaker Bagbin reminded Members that the Committee, after thorough deliberations, recommended that the Standing Orders of Parliament be reviewed in earnest since the revision would have numerical consequences on the composition of the various Committees of the House.

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Seven things that cannot stop you from getting a marriage partner.

Posted on January 20, 2021 by Kofi Tutu

In my daily counselling & interactions with many single guys and ladies, I see alot of things many of them are thinking and afraid of that can make them become ‘left behind’ when it comes to getting a man/lady to marry. I want to point out 7 things that cannot stop you or prevent you from getting your own marriage partner.

Many atimes, our society makes it look like, this things are barriers to getting a life partner, but I can tell you that, so many people who are married now had one or two of these things, and yet they got married. In fact, many of them are rightly and wonderfully married and are enjoying their marriage. Come with me as we see the seven things that can’t stop you from getting married.

SPIRITUALITY: One of the erroneous beliefs in the mind of many singles is that, spirituality is a barrier to finding a life partner. Many ladies feel , if they are ‘too spiritual’ , guys will not want to marry them. They feel, if you are a church girl or Jesus’ girl, you won’t get a guy to marry you, and you see how many ladies who were once vibrant for the Lord began to lower their spiritual standards and mixing up carnality with their lifestyle just to be able to win a guy by all means. There are many spiritual brothers too, who are becoming cold spiritually because they feel all ladies want a ‘happening guy’.

The truth is this, so many people who are wayward, lukewarm, carnal, etc still admire spiritually sound guys and ladies. Don’t enter spiritual coma just because you are looking for a life partner. Jesus still have spiritual, yet slaying daughters/sons of His that He can give to spiritual people to be married in holy matrimony

2: PROSPERITY: God’s blessings and prosperity has nothing to do with your age. There are young ladies who are blessed by God in their single days, and people tell them to hide the blessings so as to see a suitor. For example, they tell you, if you are a single lady, even if God bless you with a car, never drive; so that you will not intimidate guys and send them away from you. Hear this lady, any guy you get by hidding God’s blessings in your life, you must be ready to keep hidding God’s prosperity in your life to keep him in marriage. The prosperity of God in your life can’t stop you from getting married. It only depends on how you handle it.

VIRGINITY: Another lie many singles believe is that, if you are still a virgin, you might not get a good man/lady to marry you. I am aware that many guys scorn virginity on social media, but don’t mind them. Many of them wish they are the first that will ‘ open the gate’ of their wives. There are people who married as virgins at 23, 25 and there are people who married as virgins at age 30, 35 and more. There are many single ladies who are being lured into a lifestyle of sexual recklessness now, just because their friends are telling them that, before you can get a guy to marry you, you must get rid of your virginity first. Young virgin lady, never buy that lie! If you do, you will regret it! Myself and my Queen got married as virgins. Our virginity did not hinder us from meeting each other.

4: DISABILITY: There are singles who have written themselves off and losing the hope of getting someone to marry them because of one Physical disability or the other they are having. May be you are a starmmerer , may be you have partial deafness, or you are dumb, you have hunch back, you have visual impediment, speech impediment, or you are on a wheelchair. Think not that you cannot get marry because of any of this Physical challenges you have. It is true that, such Physical challenges can limit your chances of getting a marriage partner on time because so many people have the mentality that they can’t marry someone with any form of Physical challenges. But I can assure you that, there are so many people who will find you irresistible and fit for them to be married to them. Only the dead cannot marry. Look beyond your Physical challenges, and develop yourself. There is someone looking for exactly You! I know a blind man who is married. I know a lady on a wheelchair who is married and she has 4 lovely Children. I know many people using crutches who are married. Disability is not inability to be married. Thou shall be married!

VICINITY: Don’t ever think that, you can’t see someone to marry until you travel out. There are guys and ladies in U.S, in South Africa, in Canada who are yet to see who to marry and there are people in remote villages who have many suitors to choose from. That’s one of the ironies of life. A marriage partner is not from abroad but from above. If you are led to travel or change location, there is nothing bad in it. But stop living in 6 states within a year just because you are thinking where you are is what is affecting you from getting a life partner. There is no where you are living now that God can’t cause your path to cross the path of your partner.
DECENT DRESSING: Don’t ever think that, dressing well will stop you from getting a right spouse to marry you. I see so many singles, especially ladies, becoming mad women all in the name of dressing to attract Mr.Right. Many now wear rags all in the name of ‘positioning’ and becoming ‘visible’ for Mr.Right. If you think it is by revealing your breasts, cleavage, laps, back and bumbum that men will come to propose marriage to you, you are wrong! Many of them will rush to you ,but their aim is to ‘eat’ you rush rush. You will just be a sex objects to satisfy their sexual urge.
We still have discipline guys and ladies who dress well and they are getting married. Stop posting pictures where you are dressed as if you are undressing. What are your breasts doing outside in public gaze? Are you that desperate? There are many discipline men like me who are still fascinated by ladies who dressed modestly. It was one of the things that attracted my Queen to me. Decent dressing cannot stop you from getting the right person to marry, indecent dressing can do that.

7: BODY STATISTICS: Wether you are tall or short does not matter. Wether your breasts are small or voluminous does not matter. Wether you are fat or thin does not matter. There is someone looking for your size! There are men who will never marry small breasted ladies, they want it BIG! On the other hand, there are men who are not going to marry ladies with big breasts, they are looking for ladies who have it SMALL! No matter your lots, someone is interested in your kind. Stopping killing yourself over what you can’t change. If you feel you want to shed weight, please do. If you feel you want to add weight, please do. But things you don’t have power and control over, don’t overstress yourself over them. No matter how you look, there is someone who looks like you and he/she is married now. So, your wedding day is coming too.

I hope this encourage someone reading, keep hope alive. Don’t compromise your faith and standard of purity. Don’t allow anything to bring fear to you. Be hopeful! Be expectant! Be preparing! Keep excelling! Remember, none of these seven (7) things can stop you from getting married.

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Ghana army not providing cover for illegal miners anywhere

Posted on January 20, 2021January 20, 2021 by Kofi Tutu

A news report circulating via certain media houses, since Tuesday, 19^th January, 2021, that soldiers of the Ghana Army, have been providing security services for a Chinese Mining firm, in the Amansie South District of the Ashanti Region, have been rebuffed by the Army as misrepresentation of facts.

Providing the historical facts and the present state, the General Officer Commanding (GOC), Central Command (C/COMD) – Brigadier General (Brig Gen) Joseph Aduko Aphour, under whose command falls the Area of Responsibility (AOR) of the Amansie District, which unfortunately, has seen ravaging mining activities.

It may be recalled that that part of the country has witnessed a gun-wielding militia group, who have terrorized citizens and others, whom they considered as opponents to their nefarious mining activities.

The GOC stating the facts, said that in June 2019, the Amansie District Assembly, requested for the deployment of a joint military/Police force, to check the activities of a militia group, which was said to comprise of some locals, Burkinabes, Guineans and Nigeriens, resulting in high number of crime incidences.

As a result of the request, C/COMD had been tasked by High Command, to jointly conduct OPERATION CALM LIFE with the Civil Police, thus, this assignment has been ongoing at places such as Tontokrom, Apapam, Odahu and their environs, since June 2019.

C/COMD received information that some persons in military uniforms, were going about extorting monies from mining companies, after which the Command was directed to effect the arrest of the said soldiers, should they appear in the Command’s AOR.

On Saturday, 16^th January, 2021, further information received indicated that the purported soldiers, had moved to Odahu, a village located in Apapam Forest Reserve, hence the OP CALM LIFE Detachment at Tontokrom, was tasked to arrest the group.

As part of the strategy to arrest the perpetrators, a three-man under-cover patrol team was therefore dispatched to track the said syndicate, to aid in their arrest and on the afore-mentioned date, the under-cover team sighted ten (10) men dressed in Ghana Army uniforms, others in various desert camouflage uniforms, five other men in civil clothes, in a section of the forest reserve.

The under-cover team then alerted the OP CALM LIFE Detachment at Tontokrom, who moved in swiftly with a military/police detachment to effect the group’s arrest, however, the soldiers bolted upon seeing the dust trails of the approaching vehicles of the Detachment, who were with the Military Police (MP).

General Aphour therefore stated that the soldiers who were spotted in the video news doing the rounds, were rather on authorized duty to effect the arrest of the rogue soldiers, and were not the offending ones.

Source:www.ghanapeacejournal.com

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Handling multiple marriage proposals

Posted on January 20, 2021 by Kofi Tutu

We see marriage proposals happening every now and then with different carnival-like display, dramatic and creative approach being displayed by guys/brothers of marriageable age. We see where two or more brothers/guys will ask for a lady’s hand in marriage.

Please, note that I am aware of many cultures and ways marriage proposals are done in our modern days. But I am more concerned about ladies getting it right and not hooking up with a wrong person for marriage. It is not how romantic or modernized a proposal is that determines the success of the marital journey. It is how well you get it right through God and the right knowledge to choose with spiritual eyes and understanding.

Let me remind you that we have different people in the world and whoever you marry determines a lot about your life, future, career, health and most importantly, your eternity.

We have the following categories of men in the marriage ocean to choose from:

(1) Destiny Destroyers: This is describing someone who is not created and ordained for you but organised by the devil-like Amnon (2 Samuel 13) and Delilah. A child of God that wants peace in marriage, who wants to enjoy the marital journey and not endure it should be aware that an unbeliever, a backslider, a divorcee or already married man is not meant for you.

This category of men need salvation and the grace to be saved comes from God only, not an individual. If you get married to a child of perdition, your life will be doomed and sentenced to agony. The end of sorrow and pain in the journey may never be soonest. Joshua 23:11-13

(2) Destiny Neutralizers: With this set of men, your beautiful life and destiny get neutralized when you hook up with him. This man will make your life and destiny ineffective. Whatever vision you carry, he will not support. In fact, he will make sure you are incapable of achieving great things. He will not be supportive for you to advance in a career, academic and any professional attainment. Because he is insecure, he will feel threatened with any progressive step you want to take. He will not believe in your purpose in life and every effort to move forward will be hindered by him because he will be envious of your effort to move the family forward. You can see that this kind of person is dangerous to partner with through the journey of life. Ecclesiastes 4:9

(3) Destiny Retrogressing/Stagnating Agent: This kind of person is all out to put you on a spot by draining every potential and virtue in you. He wants to take your money and make you a servant forever. He wants you to be worse off like Shechem in Genesis 34:1-2, that took away an important aspect of the life of Dinah the daughter of Leah and Jacob.

(4) Destiny Promoters/Boosters: This is a man that God has ordained to be a blessing to you and vice versa, the one you will live to demonstrate your ministry of help as given to you by God in Genesis 2:18. He is the man that will be your head and not your headache. He is the man that will get your back and not your hunch back. He is the man that will give you peace and not tear your life into pieces. He is the man that will value you and not drag you in the mud. He is the man that will support you and vice versa. He is the man you can submit too. He will love Christ and love you as well. He will want to serve God with you and he will be genuine with the right motive.

In making a godly and good choice of who to marry, you must examine any brother in the line with categories of men in the world today as listed above. That will confirm whether you want to give his proposal any consideration or not. Your prayer should be to get married to a destiny booster. May the Lord lead you aright and may you be willing to obey God in Jesus name.

Please note that we are not talking about proposals to be a girlfriend or a mere dating partner here, we are talking about someone saying ‘Be my wife’ and ‘Let us spend the future and rest of our lives together.’

No matter the number of brothers asking for your hand in marriage, know fully that God is not an author of confusion. It may be one of them or none of them.

For God is not the author of confusion, but of peace, as in all churches of the saints. 1 Corinthians 14:33

When you have a serious proposal from many brothers, prayerfully apply the following wisely because wisdom is profitable to direct: Ecclesiastes 10:10

– Keep calm, don’t be in haste to respond to any of them.

– Don’t appear and behave desperately. Such attitude sends the wrong signal to the guy and makes them feel you are at his mercy.

– Don’t appear to be a cheap girl even if God has revealed any of them to you in the past. You still need further confirmation and conviction.

– Avoid making any demand on any of them to determine the highest bidder, don’t start asking for money and gifts or asking for different outings to expensive places and draining their pockets. That is very ungodly.

– Don’t sound rude to any of them, behave wisely and respectfully. There is a tendency to behave unruly to any of them you have reservations about.

– No sentiment in your heart and action. Remove every skeleton in your cupboard. If you already love one above others because of certain prejudice, you will not be sincere with God and yourself. This is because your mind is made up and God will not be able to lead you.

– No unnecessary affinity. You need to be mature at this stage so that you won’t force yourself on a wrong person.

– Be careful about getting intimate with his family. Don’t make them regard you as a daughter-in-law when you are not sure about him yet.

– No sex as a sign of interest in him. Sex before marriage is a sin of fornication Hebrews 13:4. When you use sex to bribe him to marry you, he wouldn’t trust you in marriage and every of your move to him will be suspicious.

– Pray through and be fully convinced: Do not pick any of them for wrong reasons or motives. Never say yes because of material things and basis that have no eternal value and future relevance. Ensure you seek the face of God in fasting and praying. Allow God to lead you, your naked eyes will see the physical (container) while your spiritual eyes will reveal many things about now and the future (the content). Matthew 7:21, Romans 8:14.

– Carry out a background check: After you are convinced, check many things about the person’s character, genuine love for you, academic background, residency, family and upbringing. Subject him to scrutiny for your good. If your counsellor requests to see him for interrogation, intercession and confirmation, don’t shield him from coming. The process is for your good.

– Have regard for your denomination biblical doctrine, policies and marital procedure.

– Seek godly counsel. There are some things that may not be too clear to you. You need someone who is more experienced and the Holy Spirit to guide you aright. Proverbs 24

– No undue delay after conviction: When God has already responded and prospered your way, no need for further delay. Give your consent answer and allow others to move on with their lives. If it is none of them, Don’t tie anyone of them down by vain promises or just feeling good to have them already without the intention of getting married to any of them.

– After you have given consent to any of them with much prayers, godly counsel, conviction, background check, future considerations and lots more, never keep others as extra tyres as we have for our vehicle in case one is flat. Do not keep them as Plan B in mind or in attitude. That will mean you are double-dealing which is not Biblical.

But above all things, my brethren, swear not, neither by heaven, neither by the earth, neither by any other oath, but let your yea be yea, and your nay, nay, lest ye fall into condemnation. James 5:12 (KJV)

Kindly share to bless your loves ones.

Pastor Yomi Adewale

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How cheating starts and creeps on you

Posted on January 20, 2021 by Kofi Tutu

The social media is making cheating super sweet and super fast!

Just one chat can land you in bed with only God knows who and hell!

Countless people including born again Christians cheat daily. Millions cheat world wide.

Cheating doesn’t start with sex. It starts with finding pleasure in someone who is not your spouse.

When you begin to compare them with your husband/wife, you are looking for trouble!

When you begin to look forward to chatting with them, calling and spending time with them, your marriage is already suffering and you need to fix it!

When you are beginning to give compliments you don’t give to your spouse to them, you are having emotional affair…

When butterfly flies around in your stomach while talking to them -you are in a strong emotional affair.

When you call them pet names or confess your “love” to them, you are in full blown emotional affair.

If you are flirting, sex chatting or doing sexy video calls, you are having mental/visual sexual affair.

If you are meeting in secrets and well…you actually had sex…sorry is your name!

It all starts with simple calls, compliments, chats that means “no harm” but leaves you gasping, yearning and desiring for more while you chat/ talk less to your spouse at home and you begin to drift apart emotionally and physically.

Because you are not omnipresent, you can’t be emotionally present in 2 relationships at same time.

One will suffer for one. Usually the marriage suffers!

In this 2021, if you don’t guide your heart, eyes and ears, you will be drawn into emotional affair before you even gather your wits together.

Don’t entertain opposite sex friendship! Your spouse should be your best friend. I don’t have any opposite sex friend. I have counsellees and mentees, not friends. Call me a fanatic, that is your business!

Don’t get emotional in your chat with the opposite sex. Keep your head clear when chatting.

Don’t respond to emotional messages, focus on the godly purpose of chats and stay on track. Refuse to deviate.

Be proud of your spouse and be conscious of their presence whenever you are conversing with the opposite sex.

NEVER have a chat/make calls you can’t show your spouse or tell your spouse about.

Have a time limit to calls/chats.

Do not chat/call when you are stressed, lonely or bored.

Never chat with them when you are horny.

Keep your marriage alive, hot, romantic and passionate.

Keep sex and intimacy alive in your marriage.

Keep the line of communication opened.

Make your spouse your best friend.

Be contented with your spouse!

Stop looking for what your spouse lacks. No one is perfect. No one has a perfect body/character.

Pray and fast regularly to discipline your flesh.

Spend time daily with the word of God and prayer.

Be heaven conscious.

You will not fall into adultery and other sins in Jesus’ name!

Say NO to adultery!

Say NO to emotional affair.

“Guide your heart with all diligence for out of it are the issues of life.”

You will not fall in Jesus’ name!

Thanks for reading. God bless you. Cheers!
© Seun Oladele, 2021.

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Newspaper Review: Wednesday, January 20, 2021

Posted on January 20, 2021 by Kofi Tutu

Source: gnews.com

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Who should you marry?

Posted on January 19, 2021 by Kofi Tutu

A Believer. As a Believer, You Must Marry A Born Again Christian John 3:3. A believer should marry a believer. An unbeliever should marry an unbeliever.

There is nobody that can love you in the true sense if the person has not genuinely given his/her life to Jesus. Your life could be at risk if you marry such a person

He/She Must Be Of The Opposite Sex. Gay Marriage Is From The Pit Of Hell. The First Marriage Was Between A Man And A Woman Named ADAM And Eve, Not Between ADAM And Steve.
He/She Must Be The Will Of God For You- Let God Lead You Before You Start A Relationship. Do not Lean On Your Own Understanding. Proverbs 19:14, Romans 8:14

One of the major ways to determine God’s will in marriage is through prayers. {Matt 26:41, 1 Thess 5:17} As soon as you are born again and getting mature for marriage, begin to pray
regularly for God to guide you. Do not take any step until you have prayed. The person proposing to you may be the most caring person you have ever seen but may also be an agent of
the devil sent to destroy your great destiny. God will guide you by his favour to the right partner if you act in obedience without gambling, or hustling on beauty, wealth, status, social or racial
dispositions.

He/She Must Be Someone Who Accept Your Family: Anyone who claims to love you must accommodate the family you come from. It will be foolish of you to continue in courtship with someone who hates your family members. If he / she cannot
extend the love he or she has for you to your family, then the acclaimed love is deceptive.
He or She Must Be Someone Who Is Committed To The Word Of God Always And Do The Word Of God Not Just A Reader.
He/She Must Be Someone Who Sees The Bible As The Final Authority

Stay away fromsomeone who flagrantly disregards God’s Word. Someone who smokes,drinks and/or commits immorality should not be considered at all formarriage. A Christian lady went ahead to marry a womanizer and alcoholicagainst my advice. She now regrets her decision because there have notbeen peace and joy in their marriage since they got married.

Marry a child ofGod! Don’t allow wrong people into your life if your dream is to be joyfully married. Never also go into marriage with the hope of changing your partner’s bad habits after wedding. Marriage may never change bad habits.

He/She Must Be Someone You Are In Agreement With:
You must complement and not contradict each other. If the relationship cannot give you peacenow because of your constant disagreements, it certainly cannot offer you one after your wedding. God cannot give you someone who will cause you high blood pressure or hypertension in marriage. It is better to break up a relationship with the wrong person than to head for disaster and tragedy in marriage. A broken courtship is better than a broken marriage.
He/She Must Be A Man Or Woman Of Prayers. He/she prays without ceasing.
He/She Must Be A Committed Member Of A Bible Believing Church
He/She Must Be Someone Who Has Someone He/She Submits To Like A Pastor/Mentor.
He/She Must Be Someone Who Fears God And Lives A Godly Life.
He/She Must Be An Adult Not A Minor. He/she is mature physically, emotionally, intellectually, financially, socially and spiritually.
You Must Be In Love With Him/Her. Never Force Yourself On Anybody. Getting married to someone who does not love you is the worst thing you can ever allow to happen to you. Forcing yourself on someone who does not love you is like sleeping with a snake.
He/She Must Be In Love With You Too. Love is a choice. It is a decision. Don’t force anyone to love you. You may regret it for the rest of your life. If someone you love does not show any sign of interest or commitment after all your efforts to win his/her heart, let him or her go. Until you let go of the wrong person, you cannot find the right one.
He/She Must Be Single Not Married Or A Divorcee. 1 Cor 7:10-11.
God can never go against His word to lead you to marry a married man or woman whose spouse is still alive, as that will lead to polygamy. So any voice you hear instructing you to marry someone who is already married, can never be that of the SPIRIT OF GOD. Don’t obey it.God is not a home breaker. He is not an intruder. What God has joined together, let not man, (prophet, pastor, in-laws, sister, brother) put asunder.
He/She Can Be A Christian Widow or Widower. 1 Cor 7:28
He/She Can Come From Any Part Of The World. You Can Marry From Any Tribe As Long As He/She Is A Child Of God. Don’t Discriminate.
He/She Must Possess The Fruit Of The Spirit. “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.” (Galatians 5:22-23)
He/She Must Have A Job Or A Source Of Income.
He/She Must Be Someone Who Believes In “No Divorce/No Re-Marriage” Because Marriage Is A Lifetime Commitment.
He/She Must Be Someone Who Believes In Your Dreams/Calling & He/she Is Ready To Support You.
He/She Must Be Someone Who Believes In SEXUAL PURITY.
Sleeping with a girl that has not been handed over to you in marriage is robbery and sleeping with a man who is not your husband is prostitution. Put a limit to your intimacy so that you won’t fall into sexual sins. Sex before marriage will expose you to unwanted pregnancy, STDs, HIV/AIDS and turn you to the enemy of God. Many singles have jeopardized the hope of a glorious future by falling into sexual sins. Don’t join them.

May you not make a marital error in Jesus name

Thank you for reading! God bless you

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Dear Searching Bachelor

Posted on January 19, 2021 by Kofi Tutu

Dear searching Bachelor, while you wait, you develop yourself.

While you’re waiting for the right lady, be the right man. A wife is made before wedding; a good husband too is made before wedding.

Study lots of materials on marriage, finance management, child training, how to love your wife, how to treat in-laws.

Do everything necessary to build your capacity. Maximise your singleness.

You must understand that being the head of the home is not like being a commander of a barrack. Learn how you will treat your wife with love and your children with understanding.

You must remember that you will be an husband, a father, a mentor, a guardian, a shepherd and many more at the same time.

Avoid stubbornness
Find a good paid work
Know to manage people, and deal with your issues.

Sir, there is nothing manly about the idea that the kitchen is your wife’s exclusive ministry; you must be ready to help her in house chores.

Don’t scatter things around in the house and expect the woman to come and arrange it. If you do that, is that not wickedness?

Dear men, please drop all these old school ideas that hinder love and unity in the house.

A real man is not someone who shouts and barks at his wife and children; a man is one who leads his children by right example and gently mentors his wife too.

Dear men, when your wife raise a good point, don’t let your pride make you shout her down. You both own the home, build together.

Learn how to love and listen to all her stories your wife. However, don’t think that she wants you to solve them all the time; because most times, she just wants you to listen.

As men, you may have sex anytime, but she feels more at ease when there is effective communication.

Don’t fight your wife, don’t give her the silent treatment; it hurts.

Take your time, develop yourself, be a man-a real man.

Be responsible, patient, understanding and always listen well.

Now you want to marry… Ask your self the following questions:
Hope you can listen to her?
Hope she believes in your dream?
Hope you love and adore the Lord enough to love her?
Hope both of you have the same faith and beliefs?
Hope you are prudent enough to manage your home financially?
Hope you are complimentary and not lazy?
Hope you are a good forgiver?
Hope you are not a lousy man?
Hope you are a strength to her?
Hope you rightly complement each other?

Determine that you won’t quarrel over or stupid things like where you press the tooth paste or not. Don’t change the divine order of love and respect. Be a good bread winner.

Wear gentleness, patience and love as a clothe, it’s your protection in days of trouble.

Be assured that you do not know all things; so, learn to listen.

Determine that you won’t leave her doubting where your love stands. Some times, her mind will deceive her into thinking you don’t love her anymore, be a real man and always tell her you love her. It is called ‘affirmation of love’

Lead by firm but gentle influence of right example.
Never be a barracks commander at home.

Dress well, don’t cause her shame.

Manage your finances well, because owing people all about is not a sign of responsibility.

There’s so much to learn as a single man who is still searching. I beg of you, use your single hood wisely.

Learn all you can now, pray all the prayers now. Your marriage must make sense!

My marriage must make sense, what about you?

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Police Arrest 97 People For Not Putting On Nose Mask

Posted on January 19, 2021 by Kofi Tutu

Police from the Accra Regional Police Command is said to have arrested some 97 people who flouted the nose masking wearing as directed by President Nana Akufo-Addo as been compulsory for all to follow and wear when going out into the public.

An operation that took place in Tudu, CMB, Farisco, Railways, and its environs saw many who flouted the law arrested and sent to the police station to be processed to court.

DSP Afia Tenge Accra Regional Police PRO in an interview with the Media revealed that the police is poised on arresting all those who move without their nose mask on and rightly covering their nose and mouth.

The Regional Police command has embarked on a special operation this morning and have been able to arrest 97 persons who were not wearing the facemask.

“We arrested these persons around the Tudu area, railways, CMB, Farisco and its environs. What we observed is that when these people come into town it is either they have the facemask yet they will not put it on so usually you’ll see them putting the facemask in their bags or in their pockets.

“So they were all rounded up this morning and some were made to buy the facemask or take the facemask that were in their pockets and bags and wear them.

“They have all been brought to the regional Police command as we take a decision on them.”

Source:Mynewsghana.net

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How to Identify a Wrong (Toxic) Relationship

Posted on January 19, 2021 by Kofi Tutu

A relationship is said to be wrong, not because you’re not in love, but because you’re entangled in a friendship that’s killing you softly. Many have been trapped in a relationship that seems rosy, but they’re oblivious of the harm it’s doing to their life.

When Eve shared a few moments with the devil, she never knew it was a relationship that would send her out from the garden that God has kept them. But as a smart guy that he is, the devil made her see how the tree is “good” for food, “pleasant” to the eyes, and one that is to be desired to make one “wise.”

Can you see that? Please note those words in quotation marks. That’s how many wrong or toxic relationship appears, but a few months or years after, the damage won’t be redeemable.

It is better to quit a wrong relationship now, than for you to leave it when you’d have a scar. Truthfully, God will forgive you, but the scar wouldn’t be erasable.

Are you in the wrong relationship? Here’s how you can identify one if you don’t know.

It reduces you spiritually

The first agenda of every wrong or toxic relationship is that it draws you away from God, and brings you closer to hell.

If you now give him more attention than God, you’d be gradually disconnected from Him till you’re lost in sin. If she demands that you spend more time with her, remember what happened to Samson, he slept the sleep of death until they came to pluck out his eyes.

A bad relationship would reduce your commitment to God, such as your devotion to Him and His work. You’d think more of him or her than to concentrate on God when you should.

You’d suffer verbal abuse

No relationship, I mean, no relationship is worth humiliating you verbally. You shouldn’t be spoken to by anyone anyhow, whether in anger or as a habit if you truly know your worth.

A person who abuses you verbally can’t change if his or her understanding hasn’t been aligned properly to respect you. All this name-calling, body shaming, the use of foul languages or vulgar words is an indication that you’re in a wrong relationship.

You’re living as married couples when you’re single

Call it couple’s life, cohabitation, boyfriend and girlfriend, or what have you are destructive relationships. It is never God’s plan for you to jump a phase in your life. God will never give you “double promotion” to excuse you from a phase of life you must pass through.

All that you failed to learn when you should be single will be a carryover when you eventually settle down to marry, but with regret in the long run.

Line must be upon line and precepts upon precept. There’s time to be in a relationship, and there is a time when it is very good that you should be alone.

You can’t stay in the wrong relationship and would expect to marry the right person or enjoy what a blissful relationship is, you must quit; and I say that without an apology.

Dating married persons

For all I care, you should know that that’s a wrong relationship. You don’t need a prophet to say, “Thou saith the Lord.” You know why?

You’re sowing something that you’d reap later. Whether the Law of Karma is real or not, one thing I’m sure of is that God cannot be mocked and whatever you sow, you’ll surely reap. If you’re the reason why a man or woman misbehave in their matrimony, you’d harvest what you sow.

Don’t be the reason why a man is not faithful to his wife. Don’t share warmth with another man’s wife.

It would take a toll on your financial life

One sad thing about a wrong relationship is that you’d keep spending unprofitably. It is good to give in a relationship, but it’s weird to give at the expense of your life. It isn’t love to use your school fees to help anybody, it’s called stupidity of the highest order.

When he knows that you can give to a fault, you’d be taken advantage of. When she knows that you give blindly, you’ll become her ATM. And that would drain you financially.

It keeps you focused on pleasure rather than pursue your divine purpose

Any relationship you keep, whether you sugarcoat the name or not, and doesn’t prioritize the discovery of your divine purpose, but esteems the pursuit of pleasure to its maximum point would destroy you.

Those who haven’t discovered their divine purpose are not living, they’re only existing.

If you pursue pleasure so much in your relationship, it would ruin your useful life. Remember, the usefulness of youth is in their youthful life, and if all your youthful life is spent on the pursuit of frivolity, what would be the order of your life when old age sets in?

See, you can never be forever young. Every one of us would one day obey the laws of diminishing returns. Your pointed breast would sag one day or that handsomeness that becomes your focal point will fade. It is what you pursue in life that matters.

If you pursue pleasure – youthful lust – there’s a reward, and if you pursue your divine purpose, you’d have a greater reward with a life that’s exempted from the tragedies of the youthful life, especially of those who are void of understanding.

If you still read all these and scorn the truths in it, well, don’t say you haven’t been told. The year is still fresh. Set your life in order and quit any wrong or toxic relationship you carried over into this new year. Don’t be emotional about your decision.

A wrong relationship has no benefit than to destroy you; if not now, the destruction would come in the nearest future.

Selah

Marital

DON’T TAKE RELATIONSHIP ADVISE FROM THESE TYPES OF PEOPLE

Posted on January 19, 2021 by Kofi Tutu

A BITTER PERSON
Someone who is hurt will most likely not be objective, their advice is often skewed as they are speaking from a place of bitterness which tends to make things personal and cloud good judgment
A SEXIST
This person elevates one gender above the other and say things like “Women are always like that, you have to teach your wife a lesson”, or “Men are dogs, show your husband you have power too”. Love will not thrive where there is sexism because love requires understanding between genders
A FRIEND WHO IS INTERESTED IN YOUR SPOUSE
This friend will keep painting your spouse in bad light so that you two break up and he/she gets a chance to be with your spouse
AN EX WHO HASN’T GOTTEN OVER YOU
This person will keep showing you how they can love you better than the one you are with. He/she will give advice that will suit their end game
A FRIEND WHO DISREPECTS YOUR SPOUSE
Those friends who disrespect your spouse should not be entertained. They will poison your mind and make you see you spouse as your enemy or as worthless
A DOMINATED MOTHER
If you are a woman and your mother is a dominated woman in marriage whose voice has been silenced, most likely she will give you advice telling you to tolerate and also to lose your voice because according to her, silence and suppression is the woman’s portion (mwanamke ni kuvumilia)
SOMEONE WITH DIFFERENT VALUES THAN YOU
Their advice will not be in line with your values. In fact, your spirit will not agree with it
A PASTOR WHO IS DICTATORIAL
This kind of a pastor will want to manipulate you and make you feel you are the child of the devil if you don’t obey his/her orders. This pastor will impose decisions on you that suits him/her and takes pleasure out of micro managing your marriage
A PLAYER
A player will incite to also play on your partner to make himself/herself feel vindicated and supported in doing wrong
A JEALOUS PERSON
A jealous friend or family member will want to ruin the good relationship you have and so will put negative ideas in your mind to mess it
A LOST FATHER
As a man, if your father mistreats your mother, has little to admire him for interms of his character and is lost, honour him but discern the quality of his advice. He might teach you how to mistreat your wife because he doesn’t know any better
A BIASED PERSON
Someone who is biased towards you, a certain tribe or who looks up to you because of your career success will find it difficult to give balanced advice

Be careful who you give audience to. Bad advice destroys marriages