Heartbreak is a more pronounced words when it comes to relationship and I am of the opinion that heartbreak is avoidable in 2020.
1.Know your genotype.
As an adult, your number one goal before going into any relationship this year should be to know your genotype because knowing this well help you a long way in your choice of whom to marry.
I have counseled several people who had to be break up their relationship due to genotype incompatibility and the pain is immeasurable.
A friend had to break up two year old relationship because they found out their genotype were not compatible.
If people had followed correct medical genotypical combination, there wouldn’t had been a “WORD SICKLE CELL DAY”.
You are not qualified to be in a relationship if you don’t know your genotype.
Kindly walk up to the nearest Hospital and get to know your genotype.
- Be convinced Before going Into A Relationship.
A relationship where God is the pioneer is difficult to break.
A relationship where you are both convinced the Holy Spirit is leading you to marry each other is difficult to break.
Before entering a relationship this year, ensure you pray and be led by the HOLY SPIRIT.
The reason you have been experiencing heartbreak is because you allow your carnal, sensual and physical knowledge to always lead you to a relationship not the Holy Spirit.
Holy Spirit will not break your heart while leading you to a relationship.
I have counseled many people who experienced heartbreak last year and I realized nearly all of them were not led by the HOLY SPIRIT before entering the relationship.
Your partner can just decide anytime and call off the relationship when you are not both convinced about God’s leading in the relationship.
If there’s a case that calls for heartbreak if you are not leading yourself, then you can easily run to the Holy Spirit on your knees to God in prayers for intervention.
The more reason I advocate for Courtship not dating.
Courtship is when you are convinced through the Holy Spirit about a Sister or Brother before entering a relationship with them while dating is when you physically asses someone to see if they are maritally suitable for you.
The highest number of heartbreak occurs due to Dating.
Go into courtship not dating this year.
- Don’t make your relationship secret.
I don’t expect you to go into relationship with someone without your mentor or Pastor awareness if only you don’t want to experience heartbreak.
I don’t expect you to be in a relationship without the awareness of your parents if only you don’t want to experience heartbreak.
Allow your mentor, parents or spiritual leaders to oversee your relationship under God and you will experience no heartbreak.
I could remember a situation where a Coach said she and the partner already called off their relationship due to a friction between the two despite they had conviction before entering the relationship.
When their parents heard they called off the relationship, the fiance’s father called him to order and to apologize for his misbehavior towards the fiancee.
Assuming their parents were not aware of the relationship, that’s the way way they would have broken up the relationship despite they are happily married with two kids today.
If you don’t want to experience heartbreak, get to know or meet each other’s biological or spiritual parents, it’s a sign of seriousness in a relationship.
Be bold enough to tell any lady or guy who asks you out that you are engaged.
Be bold enough to let your friends and family know that you are engaged.
- BE ACCOUNTABLE.
Learn to give weekly or monthly report and updates on your relationship to your mentor, Pastor or parents.
In case there is repeated misbehavior from him or her, such can easily be called to order while giving account of your relationship.
- AVOID PREMARITAL SEX OR ROMANCE
Premarital sex don’t make a man loves a lady more, rather it makes him to lust after her the more.
Sex doesn’t keep a man in a relationship.
It’s either he leaves you after having sex with you or leaves because you don’t give him sex.
If he leaves you because you refused him premarital sex, he’s not your husband.
A young lady came to me telling about her relationship with his boyfriend.
She confessed to me she has had multiple sex with the guy without using condom and I asked, do you remember premarital sex is a great to your body and God? what of if you get pregnant? What of if you are infected with STDs? She was dumbfounded.
I warned her of the need to leg go off the relationship because it’s sex driven and go through sexual purity class but she ran back to the boyfriend after a while and I didn’t force her not to go.
She came to me crying and lamenting after few months of ignoring me and leaving for the boyfriend.
She told me how her spiritual life became empty due to premarital sex and romance.
She told me how she aborted for the guy and still had sex with him thereafter.
But at the end, the guy broke her heart despite he was the one who deflowered her, impregnated her and gave her money for abortion. That’s the goal of premarital sex.
I was not surprised when she was narrating her experience with me while crying and sobbing in tears.
Premarital sex prepares you for premarital heartbreak.
Any relationship whose foundation is based on premarital sex cannot last and if it eventually leads to marriage, they won’t enjoy their marriage due to either infidelity or satanic attack because they have opened the doors for the devil through their premarital sexual sins.
The more reason divorce is so rampant is premarital sex.
Premarital sex lays a foundation for cheating in marriage and adultery leads to divorce.
No man or woman wants to be cheated on in relationship or marriage.
- Be committed to your Relationship.
If you are not interested in a relationship, set your partner free.
There are people who are in a relationship like they are not because either of the party is not serious or tired of the relationship.
A relationship where you can go for days, weeks or months without calling, chatting or visiting may not escape heartbreak.
A relationship where it’s only a partner that initiates chats, calls or visitation may not escape heartbreak.
A relationship that’s saprophytic in nature i.e only the brother or sister giving without giving anything in returns may leads to heartbreak.
A relationship where you compare your partner’s physical appearance(shape, height or skin) or academic level (NCE, HND,BSC) with another person shows you are not serious and heartbreak maybe inevitable.
A situation where you compare your relationship with others may spring up jealousy and discontentment
- Avoid communicating with your ex.
It’s easy to move from a friend to a Lover but very difficult to move from lover to ordinary friend.
It’s difficult to resist someone you have been once being emotionally attached to before.
The more reason you should avoid any form of communication with your ex.
You may wish them Happy Birthday in their inbox and let it ends there.
I have heard several reports of married women or men having sex with their ex in marriage.
Any frivolous discussion, chats, calling or visitation is not allowed except you are preparing for heartbreak with your current partner.
- Don’t make opposite sex your BESTIE
If your relationship will survive heartbreak this year, opposite sex should never be your BESTIE (best friend).
The more reason I preach you befriend your partner or marry your friend.
Opposite sex should not be your reading partner if your relationship will survive heartbreak this year.
If your relationship will survive heartbreak this year, you will not chat, call or visit opposite sex daily or too often this year.
- Be Transparent.
Be transparent in your decision making by carrying your partner along.
Your partner should be able to access your phone, laptop or other electronics gadgets without feeling reluctant except you are planning for heartbreak.
Giving your partner access password to your social media makes you to be your Lover’s keeper not your monitoring spirit like you think.
Be transparent when it comes to financial dealing with your partner.
Avoid any questionable character or lying.
- Be Purpose Driven in your relationship.
A relationship that’s bonded by purpose cannot easily experience heartbreak.
I don’t expect you to be in a relationship if you have not discovered your purpose on earth.
If the only thing you worship in your relationship is ” I love you, I miss you and exchange of gifts”, then such relationship is likely to fail.
Discover Purpose before relationship.
Be purpose driven in your relationship.
Being purpose driven means carrying out spiritual exercise together.
- Be intentional about your relationship goal.
You have to be sincere with yourself and be sure you are ready or ripe for a relationship before committing yourself into one this year.
You have to be sincere to yourself and be sure you want to marry this person before going into relationship with him or her, else you are preparing for heartbreak.
If you cannot marry him or her, there’s no reason to go into the relationship.
Don’t play with someone’s emotion.
Don’t waste someone’s resources, time and money this year all in a name of fake relationship.
Don’t be a reason someone will go for fasting and prayers in MFM prayers city or Shiloh this year.
God knows how to deal with deceivers in a relationship.
May true love find you this year.
Proverbs 22:3 A prudent man foresees the evil, and hides himself: but the simple pass on, and are punished
© Love Doctor Oluwaniyi Aderopo Hezekiah
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