A few days ago, I wrote a letter to the confused aunties encouraging them to look out for men that have vision and direction in life, a man that knows where he is going to, a man that you can be a helpmeet to, and not just any man that is an accident waiting to happen.
A lot of you were so excited, you wanted every man to read that message. Well, a lot of them did and are trying to be more serious with life and their purpose now.
You know there is always a flip side to this kinda thing, so today we will be looking at the other side of the coin.
Sister, I hope you know that you don’t deserve a man with vision if you are going to become a liability to him tomorrow. Oh Yes, every man with vision needs an asset as a wife, not a liability.
You know that statement, “Behind every successful man there is a woman.” You remember it right? Well, that statement is missing important texts.
Let me help you insert the missing texts. “Behind every successful man, there is a woman who is an asset to him”.
Aunty, what do you bring to the table of that relationship or marriage? Are you just there to take and take and keep taking. Is it just sex that you are good at?
Can your man invite you to his company dinner or function and feel confident that you won’t disgrace his generation because you can hold an intellectual discussion.
Or is the only thing you know about is the latest make up style or the new episode on Zee world series. Are you just a beautiful face on an empty head?
A man with vision also needs a woman with a vision. Your visions are meant to be in alignment, complimenting each other, and that way both of you can work as a team to ensure that you build a life that will change other lives and bring fulfillment to both of you.
According to Basiru Sunday Amuneni, A man with vision needs a woman that can:
- Searched and send him link(s) for job applications if he needs a change of job.
- Do some independent research for him on something he is working on.
- Hook him up with a client or get him a gig if he is into private practice; whether he is an MC, Speaker, Coach, DJ, Comedian, Welder, Architect, Editor, Musician, Poet, Banker or Lawyer.
- Refer him to a business idea or prospect.
- Help him with sorting out the documentation for submission of the company profile for a contract he is bidding for.
- Tell somebody about his business hoping they would patronize him.
- Seek opportunities and refer him to short courses, seminars, fellowships, and volunteer positions that would help his professional or business growth.
- Put in a word for him in a situation where you could influence a decision in his favour.
- Buy him fuel for the same car he uses to spin you around town, but you sit-in and point in admiration at flashier cars on the road.
- Visited his office or workplace even on the field to encourage him.
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Aunty, don’t be a liability. The best relationships are between two givers willing to give their all to the one they love. Both are willing to do all they can to see that the one they love is growing and becoming a better vision of themselves.
Nobody wants a liability that is just focused on what they will get. This could be the reason all the men you have come across have left you because you aren’t helping in any way. It’s only sex that you can offer, so they collect it and move on.
I know some of you will say I have done this for some guys but they still left. See eh, any man that has a vision and common sense will not see a woman that is a suitable helper for him and let her go, any man that does that hmm, he has an internal problem caused by his village people. So his case is different.
This is not meant to be one sided. If your partner is not adding value to you, that’s an unequal yoke and you are not meant to be yoked with such a person.
Find someone willing and ready to build and grow with you.
Cheers.
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