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Dear searching Bachelor, while you wait, you develop yourself.

While you’re waiting for the right lady, be the right man. A wife is made before wedding; a good husband too is made before wedding.

Study lots of materials on marriage, finance management, child training, how to love your wife, how to treat in-laws.

Do everything necessary to build your capacity. Maximise your singleness.

You must understand that being the head of the home is not like being a commander of a barrack. Learn how you will treat your wife with love and your children with understanding.

You must remember that you will be an husband, a father, a mentor, a guardian, a shepherd and many more at the same time.

Avoid stubbornness
Find a good paid work
Know to manage people, and deal with your issues.

Sir, there is nothing manly about the idea that the kitchen is your wife’s exclusive ministry; you must be ready to help her in house chores.

Don’t scatter things around in the house and expect the woman to come and arrange it. If you do that, is that not wickedness?

Dear men, please drop all these old school ideas that hinder love and unity in the house.

A real man is not someone who shouts and barks at his wife and children; a man is one who leads his children by right example and gently mentors his wife too.

Dear men, when your wife raise a good point, don’t let your pride make you shout her down. You both own the home, build together.

Learn how to love and listen to all her stories your wife. However, don’t think that she wants you to solve them all the time; because most times, she just wants you to listen.

As men, you may have sex anytime, but she feels more at ease when there is effective communication.

Don’t fight your wife, don’t give her the silent treatment; it hurts.

Take your time, develop yourself, be a man-a real man.

Be responsible, patient, understanding and always listen well.

Now you want to marry… Ask your self the following questions:
Hope you can listen to her?
Hope she believes in your dream?
Hope you love and adore the Lord enough to love her?
Hope both of you have the same faith and beliefs?
Hope you are prudent enough to manage your home financially?
Hope you are complimentary and not lazy?
Hope you are a good forgiver?
Hope you are not a lousy man?
Hope you are a strength to her?
Hope you rightly complement each other?

Determine that you won’t quarrel over or stupid things like where you press the tooth paste or not. Don’t change the divine order of love and respect. Be a good bread winner.

Wear gentleness, patience and love as a clothe, it’s your protection in days of trouble.

Be assured that you do not know all things; so, learn to listen.

Determine that you won’t leave her doubting where your love stands. Some times, her mind will deceive her into thinking you don’t love her anymore, be a real man and always tell her you love her. It is called ‘affirmation of love’

Lead by firm but gentle influence of right example.
Never be a barracks commander at home.

Dress well, don’t cause her shame.

Manage your finances well, because owing people all about is not a sign of responsibility.

There’s so much to learn as a single man who is still searching. I beg of you, use your single hood wisely.

Learn all you can now, pray all the prayers now. Your marriage must make sense!

My marriage must make sense, what about you?

dearsearchingbachelor

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© ‘2019’
23:41 GMT +1
9th February, 2019
Olumide A. Soremekun

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